Featured in After the Abortion Photography Series

Dear Christian Sisters and Brothers,

On my way to an author conference, I drove to Fort Wayne, IN to dress up like a zombie—not for Halloween but for the After the Abortion Photography Series by Angela Forker, featured on Facebook.zombie-cheryl

In my book, ReTested: The Story of a Post-Abortive Woman Called to Change the Conversation, I describe my abortion to be as perfect as the pro-choice movement promised, but I also explain how I later realized that my joy was sucked out of me right along with my baby.

Angela captured my lack of emotions perfectly, She’s a talented woman.

I was already planning a drive to Columbus, OH for an author conference when I found out that Angela lives just a few hours away in Fort Wayne, so I started my trip a day early.angela-forker

Angela is a sweet soul full of talent and compassion—an obedient servant of God.

I’m also excited to share that my book, which is endorsed by Abby Johnson and Kim Ketola, is a finalist for the conference’s Author Academy Awards, an honor bestowed for literary merit and publishing excellence in the writing and publishing industry.

The award ceremony is tonight. Prayers are appreciated!

In Christ,

Cheryl

Pro-Life, Not Pro-Political Party

When we rally behind a political party rather than LOVE, we anger everyone in the other party and rally our own, resulting in preaching to the choir. The choir doesn’t need convincing.

Dear Christian Sisters and Brothers,

Let’s choose pro-life posts to share on social media, not pro-political party posts.

When we attack a political party, we put people on the defense and they are less open to our points.

We also make abortion an issue only of the USA when it’s actually a worldwide issue.

Reversing Roe v Wade is an interim step, not the final goal. The goal is to make abortion unthinkable worldwide.

Instead, let’s talk about becoming more Christ-like. If people are more like Christ, then God can lead them to vote in the way that meets His purposes…

Which may not be YOUR purposes.

And, let’s get realistic: The Democrats for Life are likely the ones who will turn the political tide in our country.

When we rally behind a political party rather than LOVE, we anger everyone in the other party and rally our own, resulting in preaching to the choir. The choir doesn’t need convincing.

That’s helpful if we’re running for office, but most of us are not.

We’re running the race for Christ.

In Christ,

  • Cheryl

Walking Dead—the Natural Result of Abortion

Dear Christian Sisters & Brothers,

This is the last post in The Spiritual Consequences of Abortion Series, which includes:

To review, here’s what happens when we murder and have sex outside of marriage:

  • When we keep silent about our sin, our bodies waste away (Psalm 32:3).
  • The Lord’s hand is heavy upon us (Psalm 32:4).
  • Our vitality is drained away (Psalm 32:4).
  • We yearn to hear joy and gladness again (Psalm 51:8).
  • We can’t wait for our broken bones to rejoice (Psalm 51:8).
  • We want to be renewed with a steadfast spirit (Psalm 51:10).
  • We want to feel the Holy Spirit within us (Psalm 51:11).
  • We want to be restored with the joy of salvation (Psalm 51:12).

After studying Psalms 32 and 51, I understood what happened to me after I aborted my daughter: My vitality was drained away. That’s why I described myself as the walking dead.

My joy was sucked away. I wanted to feel the joy of my salvation, but I couldn’t until I took responsibility for my sins then confessed and forgave.

Saving Mothers, Too

Abortion not only murders our unborn, it kills women’s souls.

Speaking from experience, sin of this magnitude increases the gulf between us and God.

Reconciling with God becomes a much more difficult thing to do. There’s a big difference between reconciling with God after using His name in vain than after murdering His child.

Therefore, we don’t lose just one of God’s children to abortion but two—the woman and her baby.

And if the father of the baby (1st among influencers over a woman’s choice)—or the grandmother (3rd among influencers) or grandfather (10th among influencers)—supports, pressures, or coerces the woman to have an abortion, then we lose even more.

I say all of this to ask you to compassionately reach the abortion-minded—all those who support abortion as a choice—for Christ so that we not only save the babies but also their mothers, fathers, and grandparents.

Christ came for the tax collectors and the prostitutes, and we are to do the same for all sinners, even those who make us angry.

In Christ,

Cheryl

Author of ReTested: The Story of a Post-Abortive Woman Called to Change the Conversation, finalist for the Author Academy Awards

Citation:
Care Net. 2016, July. “Study of Women Who Have Had an Abortion & Their Views on Church.” Go to: https://resources.care-net.org/free-resources/#lp-pom-text-318

The Consequences of Unconfessed Sin

Dear Christian Sisters & Brothers,

This is a continuation of The Spiritual Consequences of Abortion Series, which includes:

Today, we continue to how King David described the consequences of unconfessed sin.

Despite David’s efforts to cover up his sin, the fighting men seem to have figured out that David had Uriah killed given that Bathsheba’s father was one of the mighty men (2 Samuel 23:34; 11:3) and that her grandfather Ahithophel later conspired against David (2 Samuel 15:31).

Certainly, those working in David’s palace knew that David got Bathsheba pregnant (2 Samuel 11:3-4) and tried to fool Uriah (2 Samuel 11:8-10, 13).

Perhaps all the people in Jerusalem figured out David’s sins (because not all rumors are false) but were afraid to say anything.

Until Nathan confronts David, the king thinks he has gotten away with his sins of extra-marital sex and murder (2 Samuel 11:27).

David Confessed His Sins

After Nathan explains things, David immediately takes responsibility and confesses his sin (2 Samuel 12:1-13).

As you know, David sang nearly half the Psalms. I say sang because psalm means song. Did he write them before he sang them, or did he sing them and then write them down? We don’t know.

But after he takes responsibility for what he did, David goes into the Tent of Meeting and sings his confession, as recorded in Psalm 51.

He also sings Psalm 32. In Psalm 32, David elegantly described what happened while he had unconfessed sin:

When I kept silent about my sin, my body wasted away through my groaning all day long. For day and night Your hand was heavy upon me; my vitality was drained away as with the fever heat of summer. I acknowledged my sin to You and my iniquity I did not hide. I said, “I will confess my transgressions to the Lord”; and You forgave the guilt of my sin. (Psalm 32:3-5 NASB, emphasis mine)

From Psalm 32 and from Psalm 51, we learn what happens when we murder and commit adultery:

  • When we keep silent about our sin, our bodies waste away (Psalm 32:3).
  • The Lord’s hand is heavy upon us (Psalm 32:4).
  • Our vitality is drained away (Psalm 32:4).
  • We yearn to hear joy and gladness again (Psalm 51:8).
  • We can’t wait for our broken bones to rejoice (Psalm 51:8).
  • We want to be renewed with a steadfast spirit (Psalm 51:10).
  • We want to feel the Holy Spirit within us (Psalm 51:11).
  • We want to be restored with the joy of salvation (Psalm 51:12).

More Holy Spirit!

Like King David, once we have confessed we can feel the Holy Spirit within us, and perhaps then other people will see that we have more fruit of the Spirit—

  • love
  • joy
  • peace
  • patience
  • kindness
  • goodness
  • faithfulness
  • gentleness
  • self-control (Galatians 5:22-23)

But there’s more! In Luke 11:13, Jesus gives us permission to ask for even more of the Holy Spirit.

Join me tomorrow when I connect the whole series, explaining how the story of David, Bathsheba, and Uriah relates to the spiritual consequences of abortion.

In Christ,

Cheryl

The Hebrews Valued Babies

Dear Christian Women & Men,

On Friday, I started a series on the spiritual consequences of abortion. You may want to go back to “The ‘Perfect’ Abortion” and “Abortion in the Bible?” in which you’ll learn the story of David, Bathsheba, and Uriah.

Let’s continue to learn about why David chose to kill Uriah rather send Bathsheba away for an abortion.

Today in the United States, you might expect a rich man to offer his mistress money for an abortion or even pressure her into having an abortion.

But that’s not what David does. David could have sent Bathsheba to another nation to have the baby killed in utero using potions or to give birth and then have the boy sacrificed to Baal.

But David didn’t do that. Why not? Because the Hebrews valued babies.

The Hebrews valued their family lines—their genealogies and their offspring. You have probably encountered lists of family genealogies in the Bible and rolled your eyes at trying to pronounce all those ancient names! Family lines of:

  • Adam (Genesis 5)
  • Cain (Genesis 4:16-22)
  • Noah (Genesis 10)
  • Shem (Genesis 11:10-32)
  • Ishmael (Genesis 25:12-15)
  • Isaac (Genesis 25:19-20)
  • Jacob/Israel (Genesis 35:22-26)
  • Esau (Genesis 36:9-43)
  • Joseph (Genesis 41:50-52)
  • Jacob’s grandchildren (Genesis 46:8-27)
  • census by tribe of genealogical record (Numbers 1:5-43)
  • Samuel (1 Samuel 1:1-2)
  • David (Ruth 4:18-21)

We’re only at the ninth book out of 66, and we haven’t even gotten to Jesus’ genealogy through Joseph (Matthew 1:1-17) or through Mary (Luke 3:23-38).

But the reason the genealogies are listed is because families and family lines are important to God. The Hebrews knew that. Therefore, preserving their own family line was important to them.

We also know that Hebrews valued children by how women reacted to not being able to have children:

  • Sarah/Sarai (Genesis 16:1-2)
  • Abimelech’s wife and female maids (Genesis 20:17-18)
  • Rebekah (Genesis 25:21)
  • Rachel (Genesis 30:1)
  • Samson’s mother (Judges 13:2-3)
  • Hannah (1 Samuel 1:2)
  • Michal (2 Samuel 6:23)
  • the Shunammite Woman (2 Kings 4:14-17)
  • New Testament Jew Elizabeth (Luke 1:7)

So when people say to you, “The Bible doesn’t talk about abortion.” You could respond by saying, “That’s because the Hebrews valued children.”

Join me again tomorrow to learn what David did after he had Uriah killed.

In Christ,

Cheryl

Abortion in the Bible?

Dear Christian Sisters & Brothers,

Yesterday, I posted about the psychological risks of abortion. Today, I’m starting a series on the spiritual consequences.

Why don’t we tell Christian women the risks to their souls before they choose life or abortion?

Of the women who are aborting, 36% go to church at least once per month. It doesn’t matter which denomination—from Catholic to Evangelical.

Abortions have been had by women in your church—some before she knew Christ and some afterward.

Before scheduling a meeting with your pastor or priest, read this blog series yourself. Because as a member of The Church, you are as much of the solution to our society’s ills as the leaders of your local church.

Finding Evidence in the Bible

After I was completely healed from my abortion, I asked God what happened to me spiritually. I knew there were no stories of abortion in the Bible, but I asked Him if there were a story that explained the spiritual consequences of my abortion. He led me to King David’s murder of Bathsheba’s husband Uriah.

David Had Bathsheba’s Husband Killed

You are probably familiar with David and Bathsheba’s story, but let me give you a quick summary. David stayed home when he should’ve been in battle (2 Samuel 11:1). He sent all his men to war, including Bathsheba’s husband, Uriah (2 Samuel 11:3, 23:39; 1 Chronicles 11:26, 41). While at home, David used his kingly power to have sex with Uriah’s wife (2 Samuel 11:2-5).

What we don’t know is whether David and Bathsheba “had eyes for each other” before the adultery or whether she had sex with him because he was the king and reasoned that she couldn’t say “no.” However, there are two indications that the latter is more likely true.

First, Bathsheba is referred to as “woman” and “Uriah’s wife” all through Second Samuel Chapter 11, which tells the story of infidelity and murder, leaving David as the focus of the story. We don’t learn her name until Chapter 12 verse 24 when David is consoling her after their baby dies.

Second, Bathsheba’s grandfather (2 Samuel 23:34; 11:3), who was David’s counselor (2 Samuel 15:12), later conspired against David (2 Samuel 23:34; 11:3; 15:12, 31). Therefore, I lean toward kingly pressure that today we call rape.

Whichever the case, the king is responsible for following the law of the land (Deuteronomy 17:18-20).

David tries to cover up his adultery by tricking Uriah into having sex with his wife. But Uriah is a man of higher character than David and won’t sleep with his wife when he should be away at war (2 Samuel 11:6-13). So David had Uriah killed to cover up his sin (2 Samuel 11:14-17).

David broke two commandments—adultery (Exodus 20:14; Deuteronomy 5:18) and murder (Exodus 20:13; Deuteronomy 5:17)—both of which had legal consequences of capital punishment (Leviticus 20:10; 24:17).

To learn more about how the story of King David’s affair and cover up relates to abortion, return tomorrow at 1 pm Eastern Time.

In Christ,

Cheryl

The “Perfect” Abortion

The potential side effects are serious

Dear Christian Sisters and Brothers,

I was okay right up until my baby died. I remember exactly when she left me because I could feel my face fall. I wasn’t okay anymore. Whatever joy I had left was sucked out of me right along with my baby, and I have been fighting to get it back ever since.

That’s when I became the walking dead. Abortion didn’t just murder my baby, it drained life from my soul—and I didn’t even realize it.

My abortion went so “perfectly” that I could have been the poster woman for the pro-choice movement. I had little bleeding. I only had cramps the day of the procedure but not after that. I was still able to have children. I wasn’t depressed. (I was in spiritual bondage, but I wasn’t depressed.) Everyone around me reacted the way I wanted them to—not telling me what to do but supporting me in my decision. My abortion was just as easy as the pro-choice movement advertises.

But as I’ve learned, that’s certainly not the case for all women. Many post-abortive women struggle with:

  • anxiety
  • depression
  • alcoholism
  • drug abuse
  • suicide attempts (Coleman 2011)

Why don’t we tell women the risks to their mental health before they choose?

In Christ,

Cheryl

Coleman PK. Abortion and mental health: quantitative synthesis and analysis of research published 1995–2009. The British Journal of Psychiatry (2011) 199, 180–186.

Cheryl Krichbaum’s Pro-Life Book Secures Top 10 Spot in Global Author Academy Awards

ReTested: The Story of a Post-Abortive Woman Called to Change the Conversation up against hundreds of authors worldwide for prestigious 2019 Author Academy Award

Press Release!retestedfinalistvote

ReTested, written by Cheryl Krichbaum, is a finalist for the 2019 Author Academy Awards, an honor bestowed for literary merit and publishing excellence in the writing and publishing industry.

Up for an award in the Memoir category, Krichbaum’s book tells her story of how she responds with increasingly better ways to the same family circumstance—or “test”—over 30+ years as well as how she sees the abortion conversation needs to change.

Endorsed by Abby Johnson and Kim Ketola, ReTested is the first in the Faces of Abortion Series.

“Hundreds of books from authors throughout the world are up for an Author Academy Award,” said Kary Oberbrunner, founder of Author Academy Elite. “Our goal is to help further connect this global community of authors, maintain excellence and integrity of the book publishing industry, and raise awareness that the stories being told and the authors who write them are worth our attention.”

Authors of all kinds—indie, traditional, and collaboratively published—are considered for the award in one of sixteen categories. Entries are reviewed and evaluated on popular vote, social contribution, and overall presentation (cover, content, flow, and originality) by the Academy’s voting membership comprised of best-selling authors, literary agents, and industry leaders.

If interested in supporting Krichbaum by participating in the popular vote, go to authoracademyawards.com and scroll to the “Ready to Vote?” section. Once there, click to the Memoir category, then click ReTested.

The top ten finalists in each category are invited to present their book at the Author Academy Awards Red Carpet Session on Friday, Oct. 25, 2019 in Columbus, Ohio. Winners will be announced later that evening at the Awards Ceremony where they will be invited to give an acceptance speech. Winners will receive:

  • The Academy Boon of Merit Award
  • Press release and media story created by a professional PR firm
  • A Private Recorded Coaching Session featuring a YouTube Consultant on how to leverage their book with video
  • Traditional Media and Social Media press including features on select podcasts, shows, vlogs, blogs, and articles
  • Lifetime access to 30 Days to a Bigger Stage Experience
  • The opportunity to present their book at the Igniting Souls Conference main stage

About the Author Academy Awards

The Author Academy Award is bestowed for literary merit and publishing excellence in the writing and publishing industry. It is presented annually by Author Academy Elite, a premium service provider for authors at the Author Academy Awards Ceremony.

More about ReTested & Author Cheryl Krichbaum

For more information about ReTested and author Cheryl Krichbaum, visit facesofabortion.com/retestedmedia.html

Follow MybodyMyworship for Sex Re-Education

Dear Christian Sisters and Brothers,

MybodyMyworship—positive, empowering, pro-life sex re-education for teens, young adults, and not-so-young adults—is heating up with its first sex education course this fall!

To get a glimpse of the course, follow MybodyMyworship on Facebook and Instagram!body

Just this past week, I provided some biblical insight into the word love and how it influence us today on Facebook Live, which you can watch even if you are not on Facebook.

Why sex re-education? Because we can’t talk about abortion without talking about sex.

Looking forward to seeing you on social media!

In Christ,

Cheryl

 

#ShoutYourAbortionRegret

Dear Christian Sisters and Brothers,

Who can counter the #shoutyourabortion movement? Those of us who #shoutyourabortionregret!

Why? Because we know how the abortion-minded think, and we’ve experienced the same pain.

When I listen to Alyssa Milano’s podcast in which she tells her abortion story, I hear her pain. When I watch Busy Phillips on her show admit that she had an abortion, I see her pain.

Why? Because abortion hurts women.

Abortion hurt me, and I didn’t even realize it. Thirteen years after my abortion, I chose to allow Christ to be close to me. Fourteen years after my abortion, Jesus quietly, gently, kindly spoke to me about my abortion.

ReTested book cover
My whole story, which I pray will arm you with biblical tools for your own life tests

Although I initially denied that the abortion was my fault, I did ultimately accept responsibility. It was then that I started to become alive. I realized that I had been walking through life dead—I looked alive. I acted alive. But I was dead inside, and I didn’t even realize it.

King David explains this “walking dead” experience well in Psalm 32:3-5, which he wrote after he had Bathsheba’s husband killed.

 

He described heaviness and how his vitality was drained away. Looking back, that describes my post-abortion experience well—but I didn’t even realize it until God began healing me.

Yet when I shared my story with other Christians, I felt like I got the Christian cold shoulder, so I stopped telling people.

With the exception of one testimony that I gave right before moving out-of-state, I was silent for a dozen years.

Then God called me to speak boldly (Isaiah 58:1), so I began speaking and writing, and the Lord healed me even more. It took me a total of 31 years after my abortion to be completely healed.

And today, I have my joy back!

Now I realize that Christians don’t know how to respond to my abortion—they didn’t when I first told my story, and they don’t today.

Perhaps that’s why you or your friend has not spoken up. Perhaps your friend doesn’t know how you’ll respond. Perhaps your friend is afraid of your judgment.

  • Give her a hug!
  • Tell him that there are healing classes available, even for men.
  • Remind her that God loves her deeply, and He just wants her back as His beloved daughter and made whole.
  • Compliment both women and men for being brave by telling you!

We know from King David’s words in Psalm 139:13-16 that God knew us when we were pre-born. Many more verses, and perhaps more convincing verses, say the same.

And we know that shedding innocent blood is an abomination to God (Prov 6:17).

But we also know that both King David (2 Sam 11-12) and the Apostle Paul (Acts 7:54-8:3; 1 Tim 1:15) shed innocent blood and yet were used mightily for the Lord.

  • Let’s welcome women and men who are willing to #shoutyourabortionregret with the loving arms of Jesus, who lives in us.
  • Let’s be part of their story of redemption.
  • Let’s guide those who are not yet whole to post-abortion healing classes, offered through your local Christian pregnancy resource center or your church.
  • Let’s cheer them on in their race to the finish line.

And then invite your friends to contact me so that we can work together to write their stories—so that they can anonymously tell their stories to refute the #shoutyourabortion narrative.

Let’s use the Christ-love that lives in us to encourage and empower post-abortive women and men to shout their abortion regret!

In Christ,

Cheryl