Dear Christian Sisters,
In the last two weeks of controversy over late-term abortions, I have received two kinds of private messages:
- Please help me with online conversations that I am having with pro-choice advocates. I don’t understand how they think, but you do.
- I had an abortion, too. I regret it, and I am heartbroken over all the news about legislation.
Today, I’ll respond to the first point. Next time, I’ll respond to the second.
Let me start by encouraging you to not grow weary.
Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we will reap if we do not grow weary (Galatians 6:9).
Responding to pro-choice comments is often exhausting and disturbing to our souls. I had one exchange in which the pro-choice advocate used the F-word and told me where to go in just about every one of her comments.
I responded with truth and kind words, and politely asked for a conversation rather than vulgarity. Eventually, she gave up and left the conversation. I was saddened by her inability to have a reasoned conversation.
However, I intentionally left seeds for her to remember my kindness and my points. I pray that the Lord will grow those seeds into love for Him and the life He creates.
Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good (Romans 12:21).
Another conversation I had ended with the pro-choice advocate saying, “It’s literally a parasite until it can live on its own.” I was so sad to read that.
Then I remembered that, like I said in yesterday’s post, hearts are being revealed. We must pray for our adversaries.
“But I say to you who hear, love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you” (Luke 6:27-28).
So stay in the conversation, and continue speaking the truth in love. Here are some truths to share:
Typical Comments Followed by Truthful Responses
First, I assume that the woman with whom I’m conversing has had an abortion. The more she defends abortion, the more likely she has had one, so I try to mention post-abortion healing classes often.
That used to be me. When I was pro-choice, I needed to justify what I had done.
These women are in pain. They are bitter. They are often bitter at Christians, some justifiably and some not.
Show them the love of Christ by sharing love for women. Keep the emphasis on women and the truth of the abortion industry. You are not going to convince them that the pre-born have rights, so instead focus on how harmful abortion is to women.
The pro-choice movement talks about women, so we should, too. Meet them where they are.
“My Body. My Choice” or “Not Your Body. Not Your Choice”
The pre-born are not your body but his or her own.
I avoid using the words “baby” and “mother” because those words trigger the pro-choice into defending themselves even more.
It’s not a right or a choice. It’s a destructive decision for both the woman and the pre-born. No matter what happens to the pre-born, he or she will not be forgotten by the woman. There’s a reason post-abortion healing classes exist.
“Christians Should Be _______________ Instead of Taking Away Women’s Rights”
Christians are helping women in crisis and adopting, but that isn’t exciting news so no one hears about it. There’s no doubt that we can and should be doing more. But as a Christian, I will not lie to women by letting them think that abortion is no big deal. It is a big deal. There are emotional and spiritual consequences for abortion. Post-abortion healing classes exist for a reason.
We should be just as concerned about the women who abort because the psychological effects of abortion are significant, hidden, and rarely discussed. Freedom is not found in abortion. Post-abortion healing classes are available at most pregnancy centers and some churches.
BTW, as Christians, we should be supporting those who are doing the hard work of helping women in crisis. Donate to your local pregnancy center or to Care-Net, who supports pregnancy centers throughout the United States.
“When Making Decisions for Laws, Never Use Emotion”
Only those who choose death are emotionless. That’s what abortion does. Makes people emotionless.
I used to call myself the walking dead before there was a TV show by that name. I didn’t regret my abortion for 14 years. For 14 years, I said what those women said. It wasn’t until I was healed that I could see just how dead I had been.
“PP Provides Women’s Healthcare, Not Just Abortions”
True, but Leana Wen, President of Planned Parenthood, has outright said their business is abortion far more than other health services.
If you want to see how abortion clinics operate, watch “Unplanned,” due out March 29, 2019. Abortion workers who got an early viewing of the movie agree that it’s an accurate portrayal.
Also, see “Gosnell,” which is about a private abortion clinic, due out on DVD soon. All women should be horrified by the uncleanliness of that clinic and by the inaction by the government.
If you want to see how abortion clinics are doing on their health inspections, go to Check My Clinic. This should be of concern to EVERY woman, regardless of which side of the issue you are on.