Dear Christian Sisters and Brothers,
This headline makes me so angry! No wonder so many women in The Church abort—they are not hearing the truth!
36% of women who abort go to church at least once per month (Care-Net 2016).
Faith comes by hearing and hearing by the word of Christ. (Romans 10:17 NASB)
So Jesus said to the Jews who had believed him, “If you abide in my word, you are truly my disciples, and you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” (John 8:31-32 ESV)
As a post-abortive woman myself, let me explain what abortion does to women spiritually.
I have yet to hear the following message in any Sanctity of Life sermon, but every woman and man needs to hear it.
God is Holy, and He Hates Sin
God has set standards for how we are to live, not because He wants to control us or take away our fun but because He loves us as a perfect Father does.
Now, we do not have perfect fathers here on earth, and many of you have broken relationships with your imperfect fathers. I realize that our broken view of fatherhood makes it difficult to see God as a loving Father, but perhaps you can imagine with me.
Anyone remember the TV show Leave It to Beaver? Remember how the father worked hard, provided for his family, and loved his wife and his boys?
How about the father in the Brady Bunch?
My Three Sons?
How about Liam Neeson’s character in the “Taken” series of movies? Clearly he’s imperfect but fiercely protective of his virgin daughter.
God, as Our Father, Creates Standards for Us Because He Loves Us
God is love. (1 John 4:8)
From the Old Testament to the New, God removed the food standards (all the standards for eating kosher foods), but He did not remove the moral standards. We can read these moral standards in the 10 Commandments and other places.
Jesus reiterated the 10 Commandments by telling His Jewish audience to love God and love people.
When our parents create boundaries for us—or standards—we know that if we do not follow their rules, we will experience consequences, such as a time-out when we’re little or losing privileges when we’re teenagers.
God, our loving Father, taught parents to create standards because that’s what He does. We are to reflect His fatherhood. We are imperfect people and therefore imperfect parents (just ask my boys), so we do not reflect God perfectly, but we are called to try.
God’s standards include keeping sex within marriage and not murdering. (Before you get mad at me, remember that I have not kept either of these standards.)
If you need a reminder of the Bible verses that show these standards, see the links below to my other websites:
So, what happens when we break God’s standards? I think the best example is to look at King David’s life.
David and Bathsheba
David’s whole story shows us a man of great faith (God calls Him a man after His own heart [Acts 13:22]) but also a man of a great imperfections.
Let’s look at what happens to David when he does not keep sex within marriage and then murders to cover his sin.
You are probably familiar with David and Bathsheba’s story, but let me give you a quick reminder. The short version is that David used his kingly power to have sex with another man’s wife and then killed the man to cover up his sin (see 2 Samuel 11).
Today in the United States, you might expect a rich man to offer his mistress money for an abortion or even pressure her into having an abortion. But that’s not what David does.
Why not? Because the Hebrews valued babies.
Until Nathan confronts David, the king thinks he has gotten away with his sin of extra-marital sex and of murder.
After Nathan explains things, David immediately takes responsibility and confesses his sin (see 2 Samuel 12).
The Spiritual Consequences of Murder and Adultery
David then goes into the Tent of Meeting and sings his confession, as recorded in Psalm 51. He also sings Psalm 32. From these two Psalms, we learn what happens when we murder and commit adultery:
- When we keep silent about our sin, our bodies waste away. (Ps 32:3)
- The Lord’s hand is heavy upon us. (Ps 32:4)
- Our vitality is drained away. (Ps 32:4)
- We yearn to hear joy and gladness again. (Ps 51:8)
- We can’t wait for our broken bones to rejoice. (Ps 51:8)
- We want to feel the Holy Spirit within us. (Ps 51:11)
- We want to be renewed with a steadfast spirit. (Ps 51:10)
- We want to be restored with the joy of salvation. (Ps 51:12)
Why do we desire the Holy Spirit? Because when we have more of the Holy Spirit, we have more fruit of the Spirit—love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Gal 5:22-23).
In my memoir, ReTested, I explain my 14 or so years between my abortion and my confession as walking through life dead inside. I called myself “the walking dead” before there was a TV show by that name!
So, Methodist, Baptist, Lutheran, Presbyterian, and United Church of Christ pastors in Tennessee, when you tell women that it’s okay to abort, you are telling them that it’s okay to live separated from God, that God doesn’t mind that they murdered, that it’s okay to walk around like zombies.
The truth is that Jesus came to set us free (Galatians 5:1) and so that we can have abundant life (John 10:10). Abortion does not result in abundant life. It results in drained vitality (Psalm 32:4; John 10:10).
Your letter to Tennessee Gov. Bill Lee is not the kind of leadership we women deserve. We deserve to be:
- taught the truth (John 8:31-32; Acts 17:10-11).
- gently rebuked like Nathan gently rebuked David (2 Samuel 12) and Jesus gently rebuked the woman at the well (John 4:4-42) and the woman caught in adultery (John 8:1-11).
- taught the path to renewed vitality (Matthew 6:12-15) so that we can live abundantly (John 10:10).
Further, for those women who do not believe that Jesus is the Christ who died for our sins (Romans 5:8), was raised from the dead (Romans 10:9-10), and today sits at the right hand of God, you are telling them that it’s okay to be forever separated from their babies and spend eternity separated from God.
And just to appeal to the practical nature of running your local church, if you want women to serve in the church, get them freed from their sins.
Freedom Is Available, and It’s Awesome!
If you have been involved in an abortion—whether you had one yourself or “supported” a woman through one—you can have your vitality renewed, like I did.
The path to renewed vitality is confession (Matthew 6:12, 14-15) and returning to God (John 8:11).
We protestants do not spend enough time talking about the benefits of confession. Let me just tell you from my own experience that confession and forgiveness results in freedom and abundant life!
And freedom is awesome!
Post-Abortion Healing Is Available!
Post-abortion healing classes are offered through pregnancy centers and some churches using curricula like Surrendering the Secret and Forgiven and Set Free. The Catholic Church offers Project Rachel.
Men who have pressured a woman, drove her to the clinic, or paid for the abortion need healing, too. Some pregnancy centers offer classes for them as well. A common curriculum is Healing a Father’s Heart.
The links to books above are affiliate links. Any remuneration that I receive from affiliate links are used to pay for my three websites: CherylKrichbaum.blog, MybodyMyworship.org, and FacesofAbortion.com. Please contact me if you have any questions.