Racism & Abortion

Dear Christian Sisters and Brothers,

I’m from Minnesota, and my license plate frame says, “My ❤️ belongs to Minneapolis.”

I am heartbroken over George Floyd’s death and the destruction of property, especially small businesses, in Minneapolis and around the country.

Racism is evil. We must end racism. There’s no excuse for Mr. Floyd’s murder nor Ahmaud Arbery’s or so many more.

Some say that we should be just as angry, if not more, about the millions of black lives murdered by way of abortion. Yes, we should, but we need to meet people where they are.

We are not going to convince African Americans that black pre-born babies matter if we can’t even value their lives.

We blame Margaret Sanger, but we don’t hold each other accountable for judging others based on their skin color. We must check our own hearts.

If you’re a banker, give business loans regardless of color. If you are a school counselor, encourage people to apply for the best colleges because they are capable. If you live in a predominantly white neighborhood, treat your neighbors the way you want to be treated.

If we want the violence to end—both rioting and abortion—then we have to be humbly righteous (which admittedly is redundant).

We must first become righteous through confession and forgiveness, THEN ask God to send the Holy Spirit powerfully to earth so that revival brings others to righteousness.

Righteousness in us makes Christ attractive to others, bringing them to righteousness. With righteousness, rioting ends, racism ends, abortion ends.

We must seek revival with clean hearts.

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In Christ,

Cheryl

Jesus Changed My Life

Dear Christian Sisters & Brothers,

Jesus changed my life so much that I do not live in fear, not even in a pandemic with my brother homeless and missing.

I am post-abortive. I am now completely healed and pro-life. I am an overcomer!

The video below is recorded by Revealed Ministries – Briana Nei at their Overcomer retreat, which was the weekend that everyone was at the grocery stores in the Greater Washington DC area ahead of the “shelter in place” orders.

I spoke after my new friend Jennifer Milbourn – Vacuum Aspiration, Abortion Survivor spoke about the power of forgiveness, saying:

“Don’t hold your healing hostage to someone else’s apology.” ~Dharius Daniels

Jesus said:

“As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten. Therefore be zealous and repent [repentance = confessing and forgiving!]. Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in to him/her and dine with him/her, and s/he with Me.

“To s/he who OVERCOMES I will grant to sit with Me on My throne, as I also overcame and sat down with My Father on His throne.

“S/he who has an ear, let him/her hear what the Spirit says to the churches.” (Rev 3:19-22)

Join me in being an overcomer—confess and forgive!

In Christ,

Cheryl

What the Pandemic Can Teach Us about Abortion

Dear Christian Sisters & Brothers,

How did you feel when we first received “shelter in place” orders? Fearful of getting sick? Afraid you would lose your job?

Fear

Welcome to the world of fear. Very real fear.

Fear in the Pandemic

  • Who will be able to help you if you were to get sick?
  • How will you get critical supplies, like toilet paper, tissues, and paper towels?
  • What happens if your car breaks down, and you aren’t able to get to the store?
  • If you lose your job, how are you going to pay for your home? for whatever groceries you can find?
  • Are you separated from those you love? parents? grandparents? children?
  • Or are you in an abusive relationship and now stuck at home with this person?
  • Who are your true friends and relatives who will see you through this challenging time?

Fear in Crisis Pregnancy

Welcome to the world of crisis pregnancy. A world full of very real fear.

All that fear and anxiety you and others have had about the pandemic are very much like what women feel when they are facing single parenthood or having a child with special needs.

  • Who will be willing to help them?
  • Will they have the money needed to buy diapers, food, and clothes?
  • Will they be able to work with morning sickness or extra weight on their feet?
  • Will they lose their job or their promotion?
  • Are they in an abusive relationship and now feel even more stuck with this guy?
  • Who are their true friends and relatives who will see them through this challenging time?

Fear of Separation

Some of you may say, “she should put her child up for adoption,” but women intuitively know how hard it will be to separate from their babies. Many mistakenly think it’ll be emotionally easier to abort than to put their babies up for adoption.

Fear of Being Alone

And, frankly, more than anything, they don’t want to feel alone. They feel isolated, cut off from society. They feel like others shy away from them like they are contagious.

Your focus is on the baby rather than on them, and they know it.

Profiteering

Profiteering in the Pandemic

Two Tennessee brothers, foreseeing the demand for hand sanitizer, drove across Tennessee and Kentucky buying up all the hand sanitizer they could find. Why? So that they could resell it at higher prices because of the COVID19-created high demand.

Until ebay and Amazon refused to partner with them and the Attorney General shut them down, they intended to profiteer from people’s fears.

Profiteering in Crisis Pregnancy

Planned Parenthood, in 1969, had no plans to get into the abortion business. NARAL invited them to partner in campaigning for the legalization of abortion, but Planned Parenthood said no. Then in 1970, New York legalized abortion and women flooded into New York because the free-love movement resulted in crisis pregnancies and because women did not have equal rights to work or the right to demand child support. (See History of Abortion on my website.)

Planned Parenthood saw the money and partnered with NARAL and then got into the abortion business. Planned Parenthood profiteers from people’s fears.

Which companies partner with them? So, so many. And, of course, the government doesn’t shut them down, but at least the federal government—which is in debt—is reducing its financial support of this non-profit that plans to spend $45 million to back pro-Roe candidates in the 2020 elections.

Social Distancing

But would abortion really even be an issue if people were social distancing?

You can’t kiss with a mask on.

Agape Love vs Fear

There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear. (1 John 4:18a NASB)

Agape love casts out fear.

Agape love is different than making love. Making love is eros love—you know, the Greek word that is the basis of our word erotica.

But agape love is different than eros love. Agape love is the desire to do good to others.

God is agape love. (1 John 4:8, 16)

Love Is Patient. Love Is Kind.

  • God is patient.
  • God is kind.
  • God does not envy.
  • God does not brag.
  • God is not arrogant.
  • God does not behave rudely.
  • God is not self-seeking.
  • God is not easily angered.
  • God keeps no record of wrongs.
  • God does not delight in evil but rejoices in the truth.
  • God bears all things.
  • God trusts.
  • God always hopes.
  • God always perseveres.
  • God never fails.

Let’s be like God.

I Am Patient. I am Kind.

Lord,

You are love. Thank You for loving me through all things and all circumstances. Fill my heart with Your love, which casts out all fear. Give me peace in the pandemic.

Make me the hands and feet of Your love here on earth—on earth as it is in heaven.

Lord, introduce me to the crisis pregnancy center near my home and near my work so that I know where to find help for women and men in crisis.

Introduce me to organizations like Embrace Grace, which provides support to women through local churches so that they are not alone.

Show me how you want me to use my time, talent, or treasure to support women and men in crisis.

Make me brave enough to share on social media my willingness to listen, mentor, and support women and men in crisis.

Fill women and men in crisis with Your love, which casts out all fear. Give them peace in their pregnancies. In Jesus’ name I pray, amen!

In Christ,

Cheryl

Busy Philipps’ Fallacy

Dear Christian Sisters and Brothers,

My tween is reading The Fallacy Detective by Nathaniel Bluedorn & Hans Bluedorn for school this spring. The authors teach 38 ways to recognize bad reasoning. It’s fun! and my son loves it!

A fallacy is an error in logic. The Fallacy Detective provides names for different kinds of errors in logic. The one you probably know best is red herring.

My son gets very animated when we read the book because he recognizes the fallacies in the news and on the internet. I just sigh and shake my head, saddened, because I see all the fallacies in the abortion debate.

Most recently, Busy Philipps has been shouting her abortion, and it grieves me that women listen to her because she is a celebrity. Frankly, I’m so old that I only know about her because I’m active in the pro-life movement. (I’m really only 50, so not that old!)

Ms. Philipps claims that she has a career because she had an abortion—at age 15. To assume that she could not have had a career if she had given birth at age 15 is an either-or fallacy.

“When someone asserts that we must choose between two things, when in fact we have more than two alternatives, (s)he is using the either-or fallacy.”—page 125 The Fallacy Detective

Ms. Philipps had the obvious alternative of putting her child up for adoption.

However, women with crisis pregnancies usually choose between raising their babies or aborting their babies. This, too, is an either-or fallacy, but we cannot discount how attached women feel to their pre-born babies. Women intuitively know that they cannot handle the idea of giving birth and then giving away their babies.

And science explains this. Oxytocin is released in abundance during childbirth, and oxytocin is a bonding neurochemical.

The fact that oxytocin bonds women to their babies makes sense both from an evolution perspective and a creation perspective. After all the pain of childbirth, mothers because they bonded to their babies want to protect them, feed them, nurture them, and raise them to be thriving adults. When we do so, the human race continues.

But what women ignore is that they are already bonded to their pre-born babies. If you JoyMariewere to talk to women who regret their abortions, you would find that they know when their babies would’ve been born and how old they would be today. Most know intuitively whether their babies were girls or boys, and many have named their babies.

Women who regret their abortions are grieved that they murdered their babies.

But putting her child up for adoption was not Ms. Philipps only choice. She could have raised her child or co-raised her child with the baby’s grandmother.

Taraji P Henson was in college, not high school, when she had her unplanned pregnancy. People told her she wouldn’t finish her degree. She showed them wrong by walking across the stage at graduation with her son on her hip.

I had a friend in high school who not only finished high school with a newborn but went on to get both her bachelor’s and master’s degrees.

So to say that we women have to choose between career and a baby is an either-or fallacy, but even more so—it’s demeaning to women to say that we’re not strong enough or not capable enough to have a child and a career. Single moms do it all the time.

Praises to you strong, single moms!

To say that we women have to choose between career and a baby also assumes that it’s 1973, and we don’t have equal rights to work. That’s a slap in the face of Ruth Bader Ginsburg and the ACLU, who took case after case through the courts to get rights for women. (See the movie “On the Basis of Sex.”)

One last note on fallacies: To listen to Busy Philipps or Alyssa Milano or even Taraji P Henson because they are celebrities is a faulty appeal to authority, an error in logic (again, see The Fallacy Detective). When we listen to celebrities, we assume that they are authorities because they are famous.

But these women are not authorities on unplanned pregnancies and abortion because they are celebrities. They are authorities because they’ve had unplanned pregnancies and (except Ms. Henson) abortions.

So have I.

In Christ,

Cheryl

P.S. Pray for Busy Philipps and Alyssa Milano and all post-abortive women and men so that they are completely healed, let go of their anger/bitterness/resentment, and feel God’s agape love.

When Will We Care Enough to End Abortion?

Dear Christian Sisters and Brothers,

My heart is heavy today. The Lord has twice impressed on me that He is doing something new even though we don’t see it yet on earth. He assures me that a new day is coming.

Yet today, Virginia is going to change the laws so that abortions are easier to get. This lines the pockets of abortion providers and helps pro-choice politicians get reelected—because of the abortion-provider money behind the scenes. This is not the will of the people—there are far more pro-life Democrats than the news shows you, especially in outstate Virginia.

The Lord keeps reminding me that my work is about changing hearts and that sometimes letting things happen is necessary to get people’s attention.

Things will not change in our land until people are willing to cross the political aisle and peacefully protest.

We cannot solve the world’s social problems if we do not care about this very basic issue of life.

Things will not change until Christians are willing to get on their knees and confess their sexual sins, the very thing that results in women “having to” choose abortion. We Christians are guilty.

Second Chronicles 7:14 is clear. We need to confess and turn our faces to the Lord—not with our hands out asking for things but by being women and men after God’s own heart.

What’s more important to you in the morning—coffee or God?

Most of us aren’t willing to get on our knees. Most of us aren’t willing to recognize that Christians are:

  • guilty of abortion
  • guilty of sex outside of marriage
  • guilty of abusing women or allowing the abuse of women (#metoo)
  • guilty of allowing the ungodly sex education that’s prevailant in our schools…

I could go on and on.

At some point, we need to recognize that we are not just losing millions of babies but also millions of women who are walking around life depressed or numb—the walking dead—resulting in not solving our societal problems because they just don’t care about life.

And that’s just the mothers of our dead babies. What about the fathers? Grandmothers? The grandfathers? The friends? for abortion is not just the woman’s issue, and she is not the only one advocating for abortion.

Women who are numb to the world cannot change the world for the better.

And they will just keep looking for love in all the wrong places until they trust God’s love and are healed.

They should see God’s love first through us!

We are supposed to be the light of the world. God’s love must shine through us to everyone who disagrees with us on the abortion issue and most especially to the women who have the wrong impression that taking away abortion rights takes away women’s rights.

Being pro-life is pro-woman! We need to make that clear to everyone. Show your agape love today to someone who disagrees with you.

“They will know we are Christians by our love.“ by Jars of Clay

In Christ,

Cheryl

47 Years of Legally Murdering Our Firstborn

Dear Christian Sisters and Brothers,

Today, January 22, 2020, is the 47th anniversary of Roe v Wade and Doe v Bolton.

This is how I feel…

We must pray and worship for the end of abortion. We win this spiritual battle through Christ!

Join me in prayer.

Worship to End Abortion: 40 Daily Prayers

Available exclusively on Amazon

In Christ,

Cheryl

Biblical Reasons for the Sanctity of Life

Dear Christian Sisters & Brothers,

If your pastor preached on the sanctity of life, I would love to hear his/her sermon! Please post links in the comments below.

To equip you with Bible verses on the sanctity of pre-born life and to explain the spiritual consequences of abortion, I recorded a video. Below the video, you’ll find links to resources.

Resources

Best Pro-Life Bible Verses

Spiritual Effects of Abortion

Find post-abortion healing classes at your local pregnancy resource center. You’ll find links to USA and international directories and much more on my website.

Worship to End Abortion: 40 Daily Prayers

In Christ,

Cheryl

Pray Righteously

Dear Christian Sisters and Brothers,

Sometimes, we are in difficult situations, trying to love others while disagreeing wholeheartedly.

You may have this situation in online discussions over abortion.

You may have this situation in your home, disagreeing with your spouse over how to raise your children.

So what is the first thing you do?

The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective. (James 5:16b)

Yes, we need to pray. But before we ask God to give us a hand, we need to pursue a righteous relationship with Him.

Righteousness is not something to strive for. Righteousness is something to surrender to.

Surrender—now there’s a word people don’t like! No one wants to surrender because that means they lose the battle.

But why would you want to be in battle with God?

  • He reverently and wonderfully knit you together in your mother’s womb because He loves you (Ps 139:13-14).
  • He has a plan and a purpose for your life, which is designed for you to enjoy  (Jer 29:11-12).
  • He wants to give you everything to finish your race well (Heb 13:20-21).
  • He works everything together for your good (Rom 8:28).

So, the first step to getting everyone moving in the same direction is to start with ourselves.

That’s what I had to do.

Many years ago, I wanted my husband to change. We were in disagreement about just about everything. I didn’t like his attitude. We didn’t enjoy spending time together.

I thought the only way God was going to change my husband was if I fasted while praying for him. I was certain that God would listen to me then.

But just hours into the fast, someone at church said, “Often we are focused on our husbands when we should be focused on ourselves.”

As my teenager would say—that felt targeted. There was a big bullseye on my heart, and that statement hit right in the center.

I had to work on me, so I filled myself with the Holy Spirit through Bible study, through giving up my self-righteousness, and through prayer for myself.

That same someone at church taught me that I can ask for more of the Holy Spirit, as Luke 11:13 tells us.

Verse 13 is at the end of the “ask, seek, knock” teaching by Jesus, but we usually read the story in the book of Matthew.

In Luke’s telling, Jesus ends his parable by saying:

“If you then, being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask Him!” (Luke 11:13)

As believers, we have the Holy Spirit—but if you’re living life as a grumpy Christian, then certainly you know that you could use more of the Spirit.

When we have more of the Spirit, we have more fruit of the Spirit—love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23).

Do you feel
⇒ loving
⇒ joyful
⇒ at peace (that means not worrying!)
⇒ patient (even when your food order doesn’t arrive right away!)
⇒ kind (even to your barista!)
⇒ good
⇒ faithful (never substituting lattes for God!)
⇒ gentle (always saying things God’s way!)
⇒ self-controlled (even around chips, chocolate, and chai lattes!)
24×7 ?

Yeah, I didn’t think so. Now would be a good time to ask God for more of the Holy Spirit, don’t you think?

This is just one thing that we’re learning and praying for in the MybodyMyworship Group on Facebook as we worship to end abortion. Will you join us?

In Christ,

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Pray for Post-Abortive Women & Men

Dear Christian Sisters & Brothers,

This Sunday is Sanctity of Life Sunday. I praise the pastors who are brave enough to address abortion from the pulpit, and I’m looking forward to hearing all the recordings of what they say!

Will Everyone Show Up?

But most post-abortive women won’t be there.

Women who have not yet healed from their abortions may avoid church on Sunday.

Many post-abortive women won’t go to church at all because they don’t think they are worthy of God’s love.

Many post-abortive women in and out of The Church think abortion is the unforgivable sin.

We need to pray for these women!

Post-Abortive Men, Too

…and for the men who pressured, supported, or coerced women to have abortions.

Often, men don’t realize that their souls are suffering because of their role in abortion, so let’s pray that sermons preached this Sunday open their hearts to the Holy Spirit’s leading.

Let’s Pray & Worship for the End of Abortion

Worship to End Abortion: 40 Daily Prayers
This 30-page booklet will guide you through prayer and worship to end abortion. An Amazon exclusive.

Let’s pray that post-abortive women everywhere trust the agape love of the Lord to forgive them of all of their sins so that they can live close to the Lord in complete righteousness for the rest of their days here on earth (e.g., no more abortions or extramarital sex) as well as for eternity.

Friends, there are not enough people from this generation going to heaven!

We need to do our part in praying and worshiping for:

  • the end of abortion
  • complete healing for all post-abortive women and men (even the angry ones)
  • our churches to be welcoming to the millions of women and men who have been hurt by abortion

That’s what the Great Commission looks like!

Note to Post-Abortive Women & Men

If you have had an abortion, be kind to yourself as you follow God’s leading to complete healing.

Healing is a process. Participating in a post-abortion healing class is part of the process.

Contact your local pregnancy resource center to get enrolled. This time of year, they get a lot of calls, so they are likely starting a new class soon. Don’t hesitate. You’re worth it!

If you’d like to know my healing story, read ReTested: The Story of a Post-Abortive Woman Called to Change the Conversation.

In Christ,

Cheryl

Pray for Pastors Ahead of Sanctity of Life Sunday

Dear Christian Sisters & Brothers,

We have a busy week starting with the Women’s March on Saturday and ending with the March for Life the following Friday.

Are you praying and worshiping for the end of abortion?

This weekend is not only Martin Luther King Jr Day but also Sanctity of Life Sunday.Cheryl as the walking deadjoy sucked right out of Cheryl

Please pray for pastors as they prepare their sanctity of life sermons.

Many pastors shy away from preaching about abortion because they view it as a political issue. But first and foremost, it’s a spiritual issue!

Please encourage your pastor! Don’t badger him or her! Just share your support.

And if you’re a pastor looking for more Bible verses beyond Psalm 139 or want another perspective on God’s love for life, visit these two pages:

And you are always welcome to contact me for a testimony or to ask me questions.

In Christ,

Cheryl