Abortion Hurts Women Spiritually

Dear Christian Sisters and Brothers,

This headline makes me so angry! No wonder so many women in The Church abort—they are not hearing the truth!

36% of women who abort go to church at least once per month (Care-Net 2016).

Faith comes by hearing and hearing by the word of Christ. (Romans 10:17 NASB)

So Jesus said to the Jews who had believed him, “If you abide in my word, you are truly my disciples, and you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” (John 8:31-32 ESV)

As a post-abortive woman myself, let me explain what abortion does to women spiritually.

I have yet to hear the following message in any Sanctity of Life sermon, but every woman and man needs to hear it.

God is Holy, and He Hates Sin

God has set standards for how we are to live, not because He wants to control us or take away our fun but because He loves us as a perfect Father does.

Now, we do not have perfect fathers here on earth, and many of you have broken relationships with your imperfect fathers. I realize that our broken view of fatherhood makes it difficult to see God as a loving Father, but perhaps you can imagine with me.

Anyone remember the TV show Leave It to Beaver? Remember how the father worked hard, provided for his family, and loved his wife and his boys?

How about the father in the Brady Bunch?

My Three Sons?

How about Liam Neeson’s character in the “Taken” series of movies? Clearly he’s imperfect but fiercely protective of his virgin daughter.

God, as Our Father, Creates Standards for Us Because He Loves Us

God is love. (1 John 4:8)

From the Old Testament to the New, God removed the food standards (all the standards for eating kosher foods), but He did not remove the moral standards. We can read these moral standards in the 10 Commandments and other places.

Jesus reiterated the 10 Commandments by telling His Jewish audience to love God and love people.

When our parents create boundaries for us—or standards—we know that if we do not follow their rules, we will experience consequences, such as a time-out when we’re little or losing privileges when we’re teenagers.

God, our loving Father, taught parents to create standards because that’s what He does. We are to reflect His fatherhood. We are imperfect people and therefore imperfect parents (just ask my boys), so we do not reflect God perfectly, but we are called to try.

God’s standards include keeping sex within marriage and not murdering. (Before you get mad at me, remember that I have not kept either of these standards.)

If you need a reminder of the Bible verses that show these standards, see the links below to my other websites:

Best Pro-Life Bible Verses

Bible Verses on Sexual Immorality

So, what happens when we break God’s standards? I think the best example is to look at King David’s life.

David and Bathsheba

David’s whole story shows us a man of great faith (God calls Him a man after His own heart [Acts 13:22]) but also a man of a great imperfections.

Let’s look at what happens to David when he does not keep sex within marriage and then murders to cover his sin.

You are probably familiar with David and Bathsheba’s story, but let me give you a quick reminder. The short version is that David used his kingly power to have sex with another man’s wife and then killed the man to cover up his sin (see 2 Samuel 11).

Today in the United States, you might expect a rich man to offer his mistress money for an abortion or even pressure her into having an abortion. But that’s not what David does.

Why not? Because the Hebrews valued babies.

Until Nathan confronts David, the king thinks he has gotten away with his sin of extra-marital sex and of murder.

After Nathan explains things, David immediately takes responsibility and confesses his sin (see 2 Samuel 12).

The Spiritual Consequences of Murder and Adultery

David then goes into the Tent of Meeting and sings his confession, as recorded in Psalm 51. He also sings Psalm 32. From these two Psalms, we learn what happens when we murder and commit adultery:

  • When we keep silent about our sin, our bodies waste away. (Ps 32:3)
  • The Lord’s hand is heavy upon us. (Ps 32:4)
  • Our vitality is drained away. (Ps 32:4)
  • We yearn to hear joy and gladness again. (Ps 51:8)
  • We can’t wait for our broken bones to rejoice. (Ps 51:8)
  • We want to feel the Holy Spirit within us. (Ps 51:11)
  • We want to be renewed with a steadfast spirit. (Ps 51:10)
  • We want to be restored with the joy of salvation. (Ps 51:12)

Why do we desire the Holy Spirit? Because when we have more of the Holy Spirit, we have more fruit of the Spirit—love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Gal 5:22-23).

In my memoir, ReTested, I explain my 14 or so years between my abortion and my confession as walking through life dead inside. I called myself “the walking dead” before there was a TV show by that name!

Pastoral Leadership

So, Methodist, Baptist, Lutheran, Presbyterian, and United Church of Christ pastors in Tennessee, when you tell women that it’s okay to abort, you are telling them that it’s okay to live separated from God, that God doesn’t mind that they murdered, that it’s okay to walk around like zombies.

The truth is that Jesus came to set us free (Galatians 5:1) and so that we can have abundant life (John 10:10). Abortion does not result in abundant life. It results in drained vitality (Psalm 32:4; John 10:10).

Your letter to Tennessee Gov. Bill Lee is not the kind of leadership we women deserve. We deserve to be:

  • taught the truth (John 8:31-32; Acts 17:10-11).
  • gently rebuked like Nathan gently rebuked David (2 Samuel 12) and Jesus gently rebuked the woman at the well (John 4:4-42) and the woman caught in adultery (John 8:1-11).
  • taught the path to renewed vitality (Matthew 6:12-15) so that we can live abundantly (John 10:10).

Further, for those women who do not believe that Jesus is the Christ who died for our sins (Romans 5:8), was raised from the dead (Romans 10:9-10), and today sits at the right hand of God, you are telling them that it’s okay to be forever separated from their babies and spend eternity separated from God.

And just to appeal to the practical nature of running your local church, if you want women to serve in the church, get them freed from their sins.

Freedom Is Available, and It’s Awesome!

If you have been involved in an abortion—whether you had one yourself or “supported” a woman through one—you can have your vitality renewed, like I did.

The path to renewed vitality is confession (Matthew 6:12, 14-15) and returning to God (John 8:11).

We protestants do not spend enough time talking about the benefits of confession. Let me just tell you from my own experience that confession and forgiveness results in freedom and abundant life!

And freedom is awesome!

Post-Abortion Healing Is Available!

Post-abortion healing classes are offered through pregnancy centers and some churches using curricula like Surrendering the Secret and Forgiven and Set Free. The Catholic Church offers Project Rachel.

Men who have pressured a woman, drove her to the clinic, or paid for the abortion need healing, too. Some pregnancy centers offer classes for them as well. A common curriculum is Healing a Father’s Heart.

The links to books above are affiliate links. Any remuneration that I receive from affiliate links are used to pay for my three websites: CherylKrichbaum.blog, MybodyMyworship.org, and FacesofAbortion.com. Please contact me if you have any questions.

In Christ,

Cheryl

Yelling Doesn’t Work

Dear Christian Sisters and Brothers,

There are plenty of sensationalists out there, but that doesn’t mean you have to talk like them. Say a prayer then comment on social media posts as if you were talking to your daughter or your best friend–or like Jesus did with the woman at the well.

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In Christ,

Cheryl

Day 16: Pray Against Hollywood’s Pressure

Dear Christian Sisters and Brothers,

Although I will not pit one political party over another, I will advocate for life in the political arena.

My book is not political. Read the one-and-a-half page introduction for yourself.

Nevertheless, we need to pray for pro-life legislation. Hollywood celebrities are threatening to boycott the state of Georgia if Gov Brian Kemp signs the House Bill 481, The Living Infants Fairness and Equality (L.I.F.E.) Act.

If you didn’t know already, many production companies are located and shoot in Georgia. We used to live in one of those towns, Senoia, which boasts such lovely projects as The Walking Dead and “Fried Green Tomatoes.”

When we moved from there, another production company was moving into the nearby town of Fayetteville. And I’m sure there are other companies as well.

Dear Heavenly Father,

We lift to you the state of Georgia. We praise You that Georgia’s heartbeat bill is ready for Gov. Brian Kemp to sign.

Thank You for loving life. Thank You for loving women so much that You do not want the pain of abortion for them. Lord, shield women in the state of Georgia from making the same mistake that I did.

Lord, thank You for giving Gov. Kemp the courage to love You more than he fears loss of revenue.

May You be glorified in the name of Jesus.

Amen!

In Christ,

Cheryl

So I Saw the Movie “Unplanned”

Dear Christian Sisters and Brothers,

If you haven’t seen the movie “Unplanned,” do it. It’s well made. It’s real. It’s going to change you and the people you invite to go with you. (Find a theater.)

I took my family to see “Unplanned” last night. I read Abby Johnson‘s book. I had to see the movie.

Afterward, my 15 year old asked me in the kindest way he knew how: “Mom, how can you live with yourself knowing what you did?” I said:

“Only through the love of Christ.”

unplannedBut, last night in the theater was the first that I saw what I did. I made myself watch it. I needed to see it so that I wouldn’t forget what I did to my daughter.

During that scene and thinking about my Joy being sucked away, or “beamed up” as the doctor flippantly said, God whispered in my ear “Forgiven” and reminded me that I will see my daughter when I return to heaven.

Will all post-abortive women see their children some day? Only if they choose Christ.

You can help them. Please speak the truth in love so that women are attracted to Christ when they hear you talk about abortion, and remember to tell everyone that post-abortion healing is available. (I did Surrendering the Secret.)

You never know who is listening or reading your social media post.

In Christ,

Cheryl

P.S. The link to Abby’s book is an affiliate link, which means that at no cost to you, I may receive a small commission if you make a purchase. Any remuneration that I receive from affiliate links helps to pay for my three websites: CherylKrichbaum.blog, MybodyMyworship.org, and FacesofAbortion.com.

People, Not Politics: Introduction to ReTested Book

Dear Christian Sisters,

This morning I promised to send you the introduction to my first book, ReTested: The Story of a Post-Abortive Woman Called to Change the Conversation.ReTested book cover

The book is due out Friday, April 12th, so put that date on your calendar and RSVP for the online event.

When I sat down to write the Introduction, I actually wrote more than what I published. But God made it clear that the second half were my words rather than the words that He gave me. So, I ended the introduction before I got on my pedestal. Here it is:

Introduction to ReTested

It breaks my heart that my pro-life stance automatically associates me with the Republican party.

Simultaneously, it breaks my heart that politicians in the Democratic party vote pro-choice or get bullied out of their elected positions. Why should I contact my legislator if he or she has already decided to vote pro-choice no matter what his or her constituents say? Our political system is supposed to represent its people, not money-making companies like abortion clinics and pharmaceutical companies.

Ever since we’ve seen the pre-born on ultrasound machines in the 1970s, we have known scientifically that they are alive. Science shows that they are alive. Our laws acknowledge the value of pre-born eagles and pre-born sea turtles but not the value of pre-born humans. Our thinking is backwards. Our political system is broken.

But even when we overturn Roe v Wade and every other pro-choice law in each of the states, abortion will continue. It’ll go underground. We’ll have a new illegal drug trade. There are countries all over the world where abortion is illegal yet abortion continues. Don’t expect the United States to be any different.

If we want to end abortion, we must change hearts. This starts with The Church. We have a lot to repent for (2 Chronicles 7:14a). We have a lot of disciples to make (Matthew 28:19). We have a lot of teaching to do (Matthew 28:20). All three are necessary if we expect God to hear from heaven, forgive our sin, and heal our land (2 Chronicles 7:14b).

“and My people who are called by My name humble themselves and pray and seek My face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, will forgive their sin and will heal their land.” (2 Chronicles 7:14 NASB)

“Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you. And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age.” (Matthew 28:19-20 ESV)

In Christ,

Cheryl

National Day of Mourning

Dear Christian Sisters,

Today is #nationaldayofmourning over NY and other legislation for late-term abortions over the last month.

Let us mourn for our inaction that we would allow murder to be legal for 46 years throughout the USA and 49 years in NY.

Let us mourn for not valuing the sanctity of sex, your beautiful design for sex in marriage between one man and one woman.

Let us mourn that we have allowed others to teach about sex and reproductive rights when we should be teaching in The Church and in our homes.

We allowed this! Lord, we repent!

In Christ,

Cheryl

Movie Rated R for Abortion Scenes

Dear Christian Sisters,

The movie “Unplanned” is rated R for scenes of abortion. How ironic is that?

While the filmmakers were certain they were making a PG-13 film, the MPAA has informed them that it will, in fact, be rated R unless all scenes of abortions are removed or altered.

Check out the story by The Hollywood Reporter.

My opinion? If your children are receiving sex education, then they should see “Unplanned.” I will be taking my pre-teen and teen boys.

Be sure to check out the movie trailer, and put March 29 on your calendar as movie night.

In Christ,

Cheryl

God Wants His Daughters Back

Dear Christian Sisters,

As I said in my last post titled “Do Not Give Up Speaking Truth,” women who have had abortions are contacting me privately.

In all the recent controversy over late-term abortions, I see God revealing hearts and calling His daughters back to him.

Please receive them in love.

Why Is Our Response Important?

Our response to post-abortive women is important because:

  • Speaking truth in love is what Jesus did—as did my husband.
  • Speaking in love results in repentance, which results in healing and a restored relationship with Christ.
  • Restored post-abortive women can speak boldly about abortion in a way that others cannot and will become a loud trumpet that cannot be ignored.

Speak the Truth in Love

Jesus spoke the truth in love both to the woman at the well, resulting in many Samaritans hearing the Gospel, and to the woman caught in adultery, resulting in her accusers walking away, saving her life.

My husband also spoke the truth in love, and as result I chose personal faith in Jesus as the Christ, reconciled with God, and was healed. You’ll read about my hero in my upcoming book ReTested.

People who prayed outside Abby Johnson‘s Planned Parenthood clinic (40 Days for Life) also spoke the truth in love, as did her husband, resulting in her famously leaving her position as clinic Director and now speaking boldly for the pro-life movement. You can watch her story in the upcoming movie “Unplanned.”

My point? Speaking the truth in love results in people choosing Christ and His path.

Healing & Restoration

Your kind words may lead a woman to a post-abortion healing class offered through pregnancy centers and some churches using curriculum like Surrendering the Secret and Forgiven and Set Free. **

Healing comes through acknowledging one’s responsibility and confessing it to the Lord. For me, admitting that my abortion was my choice, not the result of others’ actions, was central to my repentance.

The same was true of King David in the Old Testament. After he committed adultery with Bathsheba and had her husband Uriah killed, he said:

When I kept silent about my sin, my body wasted away
Through my groaning all day long (Psalm 32:3).

Before I reconciled with God, I felt as David did:

My vitality was drained away as with the fever heat of summer (Psalm 32:4b).

But both King David and I found freedom through confession:

I acknowledged my sin to You,
And my iniquity I did not hide.
I said, “I will confess my transgressions to the Lord”;
And You forgave the guilt of my sin. (Psalm 32:5)

Hide your face from my sins
and blot out all my iniquity.
Create in me a pure heart, O God,
and renew a steadfast spirit within me. (Psalm 51:9-10)

I also found a great deal of freedom from forgiving.

For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins (Matthew 6:14-15).

Perhaps you are not living a life of freedom, even though you never had an abortion. Whether you’ve had an abortion or not, take some time today to ask God how you have sinned and whom you have not forgiven. Then confess your sin and your anger.

Lord, I confess that I ___________________ and I should not have. I am sorry. Please forgive me. For I know what I did was wrong, and it is always before me. Against you have I sinned and done what is evil in your sight. Cleanse me, and I will be clean. Wash me, and I will be whiter than snow. Let me hear joy and gladness!

Lord, I blame ___________________(person’s name) for ______________________. Please forgive me for harboring bitterness and anger toward him/her. Lord, I forgive ___________________. Bless __________________ with every spiritual blessing.

I pray that the freedom you feel is as amazing as mine.

Healed people get excited to tell everyone what Christ did. Imagine the powerful evangelical force of healed and restored Christians.

Imagine the powerful evangelical force of healed and restored post-abortive Christian women!

Speaking Boldly

One of the private messages that I received this week from a post-abortive woman was a cry over New York’s late-term abortion.

I am crying, too. Not only are more babies going to die, but now we’re going to have even more women who are spiritually dead, bitter, and defending the pro-choice movement. They are going to need healing, too.

Now, imagine hundreds of healed, outspoken, post-abortive women who explain how abortion hurt them psychologically and spiritually.

Imagine every pro-choice argument—intended to be pro-women arguments—refuted by women who have had abortions.

Now that’s a trumpet band I want to hear!

“Cry loudly, do not hold back;
Raise your voice like a trumpet,
And declare to My people their transgression
And to the house of Jacob their sins” (Isaiah 58:1).

In Christ,

Cheryl

** The links for Surrendering the Secret and Forgiven and Set Free are affiliate links. Any remuneration that I receive from affiliate links are used to pay for my three websites: CherylKrichbaum.blog, MybodyMyworship.org, and FacesofAbortion.com.

Do Not Give Up Speaking Truth

Dear Christian Sisters,

In the last two weeks of controversy over late-term abortions, I have received two kinds of private messages:

  1. Please help me with online conversations that I am having with pro-choice advocates. I don’t understand how they think, but you do.
  2. I had an abortion, too. I regret it, and I am heartbroken over all the news about legislation.

Today, I’ll respond to the first point. Next time, I’ll respond to the second.

Let me start by encouraging you to not grow weary.

Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we will reap if we do not grow weary (Galatians 6:9).

Responding to pro-choice comments is often exhausting and disturbing to our souls. I had one exchange in which the pro-choice advocate used the F-word and told me where to go in just about every one of her comments.

I responded with truth and kind words, and politely asked for a conversation rather than vulgarity. Eventually, she gave up and left the conversation. I was saddened by her inability to have a reasoned conversation.

However, I intentionally left seeds for her to remember my kindness and my points. I pray that the Lord will grow those seeds into love for Him and the life He creates.

Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good (Romans 12:21).

Another conversation I had ended with the pro-choice advocate saying, “It’s literally a parasite until it can live on its own.” I was so sad to read that.

Then I remembered that, like I said in yesterday’s post, hearts are being revealed. We must pray for our adversaries.

“But I say to you who hear, love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you” (Luke 6:27-28).

So stay in the conversation, and continue speaking the truth in love. Here are some truths to share:

Typical Comments Followed by Truthful Responses

First, I assume that the woman with whom I’m conversing has had an abortion. The more she defends abortion, the more likely she has had one, so I try to mention post-abortion healing classes often.

That used to be me. When I was pro-choice, I needed to justify what I had done.

These women are in pain. They are bitter. They are often bitter at Christians, some justifiably and some not.

Show them the love of Christ by sharing love for women. Keep the emphasis on women and the truth of the abortion industry. You are not going to convince them that the pre-born have rights, so instead focus on how harmful abortion is to women.

The pro-choice movement talks about women, so we should, too. Meet them where they are.

“My Body. My Choice” or “Not Your Body. Not Your Choice”

The pre-born are not your body but his or her own.

I avoid using the words “baby” and “mother” because those words trigger the pro-choice into defending themselves even more.

“Reproductive Rights”

It’s not a right or a choice. It’s a destructive decision for both the woman and the pre-born. No matter what happens to the pre-born, he or she will not be forgotten by the woman. There’s a reason post-abortion healing classes exist.

“Christians Should Be _______________ Instead of Taking Away Women’s Rights”

Christians are helping women in crisis and adopting, but that isn’t exciting news so no one hears about it. There’s no doubt that we can and should be doing more. But as a Christian, I will not lie to women by letting them think that abortion is no big deal. It is a big deal. There are emotional and spiritual consequences for abortion. Post-abortion healing classes exist for a reason.

We should be just as concerned about the women who abort because the psychological effects of abortion are significant, hidden, and rarely discussed. Freedom is not found in abortion. Post-abortion healing classes are available at most pregnancy centers and some churches.

BTW, as Christians, we should be supporting those who are doing the hard work of helping women in crisis. Donate to your local pregnancy center or to Care-Net, who supports pregnancy centers throughout the United States.

“When Making Decisions for Laws, Never Use Emotion”

Only those who choose death are emotionless. That’s what abortion does. Makes people emotionless.

I used to call myself the walking dead before there was a TV show by that name. I didn’t regret my abortion for 14 years. For 14 years, I said what those women said. It wasn’t until I was healed that I could see just how dead I had been.

“PP Provides Women’s Healthcare, Not Just Abortions”

True, but Leana Wen, President of Planned Parenthood, has outright said their business is abortion far more than other health services.

According to former PP employee Abby Johnson, 50% of PP’s income is abortion and 50% government funding. (See Steven Crowder’s interview with Abby.)

If you want to see how abortion clinics operate, watch “Unplanned,” due out March 29, 2019. Abortion workers who got an early viewing of the movie agree that it’s an accurate portrayal.

Also, see “Gosnell,” which is about a private abortion clinic, due out on DVD soon. All women should be horrified by the uncleanliness of that clinic and by the inaction by the government.

If you want to see how abortion clinics are doing on their health inspections, go to Check My Clinic. This should be of concern to EVERY woman, regardless of which side of the issue you are on.

In Christ,

Cheryl