Hearts are Being Revealed

Dear Christian Sisters,

It’s only been two weeks since the 46th Roe v Wade anniversary, the day that New York passed its late-term abortion legislation, cheered, and lit up New York City in Planned Parenthood’s pink (see note below).

The hearts of the NY legislators and governor were revealed that day.

Then we heard from Delegate Kathy Tran of Virginia introduce legislation that would make it easier to get a late-term abortion in Virginia, saying that abortion could happen all the way up to birth.

The Virginia Delegate’s heart was revealed that day.

After that, we heard Virginia Governor Ralph Northam on the Ask the Governor radio show explain “exactly what would happen” in a third trimester abortion, but what he described was infanticide.

The Virginia Governor’s heart was revealed that day.

Let us rejoice that the truth is coming out while simultaneously praying for God’s mercy. Please be in prayer for everyone you hear about in the news, that they would know the personal, loving God who changes hearts and loves life.

In Christ,

Cheryl

Note:

When we see pink, we think of breast cancer. I did a little searching and found that Susan G. Komen started using pink in 1991. Around the same time, I remember protesting with PP (see below), and everyone there had pink arm bands. I don’t know which organization started first, but I can say that PP has been using pink for a long time.

You may be shocked that I protested with PP, that I was on their side. Yes, I used to be pro-choice. Remember that I had an abortion when I was 17, and until I had a personal relationship with Christ, I defended my decision by supporting PP, even though I did not have an abortion at one of their clinics.

Let’s Get Serious, Church: A Reaction to John Piper’s Post

Dear Christian Sisters,

I applaud every pastor who speaks about abortion. I am pleased that John Piper wrote a blog post about abortion and that his Desiring God ministry shared it on Facebook once again earlier this week on the anniversary of Roe v Wade.One Sanctity of Life sermon per year is not enough

However, we—The Church—have so much more to do.

I am a member of a big church with a famous pastor who is willing to speak against abortion on Sanctity of Life Sunday. I so appreciate his willingness to do so because so many pastors don’t or won’t.

Yet at the same time, I know that one 40-minute sermon once per year is not enough. About 30% of abortions in the United States are by Christian women. That’s 30% too many.

We have so much more that we need to do.

Sanctity of Life

What Do We Teach?

When our churches have classes and small groups, do they teach why abortion is a sin? Do they provide the bible verses that show that God knows all of us when we were formed in the womb? Do they teach the spiritual consequences of abortion?

To Whom Do We Teach?

Do we teach not just to teenagers but to the young adults and to the adults? Remember, everyone 64 and younger has known Roe v Wade their whole adult lives—and four states legalized abortion before Roe v Wade (Hawaii, New York, Oregon, and Alaska).

My church does not teach these things.

Sanctity of Sex

Most abortions could be eliminated simply by people waiting until they are married to have sex. Do the classes at our churches teach the sanctity of sex?

Do we teach sex education in our teen programs? Or do we leave sex education to our public schools?

Do we teach in our young adult or adult programs? Because, once again, our adults don’t even know—and many don’t practice—the sanctity of sex.

So, let’s get started. Pray, asking the Lord to start providing Sanctity of Life and Sanctity of Sex classes in your church to everyone—not just teens. Talk to other like-minded members about getting something started. Talk to your church leadership.

Let’s make the biblical teaching of abortion and sex normal in our churches. We need to end abortion in The Church. It’s up to us to make that happen.

In Christ,

Cheryl

Watch Your Words as You Comment on the New York Late-Term Abortion Legislation

Remember how Jesus talked to the Woman at the Well?

Dear Christian Sisters,

The news that New York has legalized late-term abortions once again has everyone in an uproar. I just ask that you comment on articles with love and logic.

I wasn’t feeling well yesterday, so I sat on my couch and read all sorts of comments on news posts while my friends sent me private messages asking me for advice on how to respond to people.

I can’t help but get involved in the conversation because I have so much to say about what abortion does to women, and it didn’t take long for someone who disagrees with me to comment in return.

Except that she didn’t just comment—she yelled and swore. I did not. I responded with logical explanations.

Her comments devolved into twisting my words. I politely pointed out what I really said and pointed her back to my original comment. I also asked that she talk to me without swear words and without telling me where to go.

When she couldn’t argue with me anymore, she left the conversation.

That’s what I want to encourage you to do. Stay in the conversation but do so gracefully and with love. My words will stay with that woman. My words were seeds. I pray that the Lord will water and grow those seeds into love for the Savior.

Our goal is to love others over the life line.

I was loved over the life line by my husband Russ and by Christ, as you’ll soon read in my first book, ReTested.

Abby Johnson, author of the book and soon-to-be-released movie “Unplanned,” was loved over the life line by her husband, parents, and the 40 Days for Life. It can be done, and we should be the ones doing it.

Remember how Jesus talked to the Woman at the Well? He spoke truth to her, and she didn’t recoil but instead was honored as one of the first to be told directly that He is the Christ.

As Christians, we are called to be Christ followers. That means doing like He did. Let us love them so much that they want to become pro-life Christians.

In Christ,

Cheryl

46th Anniversary of Roe v Wade: a Little History Lesson

Dear Christian Sisters,

Today marks the 46th year of mourning the Roe v Wade Supreme Court decision of January 22, 1973.

Consider this: Everyone in the USA age 64 and younger has lived in the wake of Roe v Wade their entire adult lives.roevwade

1969

The National Association of the Repeal of Abortion Laws (NARAL) began organizing in 1969 to legalize abortion. NARAL has been through several name changes but today is known as NARAL Pro-Choice America.

Two men were key in starting NARAL: Lawrence Lader, a Communist, and Dr. Bernard Nathanson, an OB/GYN who saw the results of many botched abortions.

Dr. Nathanson, dubbed “The Abortion King,” lent medical credibility to the legalization of abortion. He worked to improve the cleanliness and medical standards of illegal abortion clinics ahead of legalization.

Lader  put women at the front of their political work. He knew that in order to get people to listen, they needed to hear from women that abortion was perfectly okay for them.

1970

Did you know that abortion was legal in Hawaii and New York in 1970, before Roe v Wade? When abortion was legalized in New York, women traveled to the state for an abortion, which was good for the economy.

Margaret Sanger, the founder of Planned Parenthood, had died in 1966 and was not personally involved in abortion rights. A year earlier in 1965, PP warned women not to abort, saying that it kills the life of a baby and endangers the woman.

Planned Parenthood itself initially said “no” to Dr. Nathanson when he invited PP to join them in promoting legalized abortions. But after abortion was legalized in New York and they saw how much money was to be made, PP joined NARAL in their political efforts.

From Pro-Abortion to Anti-Abortion

Dr. Nathanson at the time was an atheistic Jew. A few years after Roe v Wade, he saw an abortion through an ultrasound. Seeing that the fetus was alive, he began to question his assumptions. He famously asked:

“What If We’ve Been Wrong?”

In 1984, Dr. Nathanson was the narrator of an anti-abortion film titled The Silent Scream.

After converting to the pro-life movement, Dr. Nathanson converted to Christianity. So, he was pro-life before he was Christian.

Fake News in the Late 1960s

Dr. Nathanson became a speaker for the pro-life movement and openly confessed how he deceived Americans by inflating numbers and using marketing strategies to vilify the pro-life Catholic Church.

For example, NARAL reported that there were one million criminal abortions annually. The real number was 10% of that—90% FEWER abortions than reported.

NARAL claimed that 5-10,000 women died each year from botched abortions when the real numbers were closer to 250—95% FEWER women died than reported.

In summary, the United States was duped by clever marketing strategies crafted by men.

To Learn More

I had heard most of the facts that I listed above from one of Dr. Nathanson’s recorded presentations. I later read those facts in the 2017 book What If We’ve Been Wrong? Keeping My Promise to America’s “Abortion King” by Terry Beatley. Dr. Nathanson wrote two of his own books (affiliate link—just trying to pay for my websites). You can read one of his articles for free at “Confessions of an Ex-Abortionist.”

In Christ,

Cheryl

 

MLK Jr Day & Mildred Fay Jefferson

Dear Christian Sisters,

On this Martin Luther King, Jr Day, let’s remember Dr. Mildred Fay Jefferson (1927-2010), a pro-life advocate.

Photo of Dr. Mildred Fay Jefferson speakingDr. Jefferson helped to found the National Right to Life Committee (NRLC) and served the Committee in several roles, including President from 1975 to 1978.

Dr. Jefferson was a well-known pro-life speaker in the 1970s. In 1972 through one of her appearances on TV, she convinced then California Governor Ronald Reagan to switch from pro-choice to pro-life.

In addition to her pro-life advocacy work, Dr. Jefferson was both the first black woman to graduate from Harvard Medical School and the first woman to graduate in surgery from the same school.

“I am at once a physician, a citizen, and a woman, and I am not willing to stand aside and allow the concept of expendable human lives to turn this great land of ours into just another exclusive reservation where only the perfect, the privileged, and the planned have the tight to live.”

Listen to her speak in this video tribute to her life by the NRLC.

In Christ,

Cheryl

Top 14 Pro-Life Bible Verses

The verses, though, that were most convincing to me require a little knowledge of Greek. Fortunately, we can look up Greek meanings for free.

Dear Christian Sisters,

On this Sanctity of Life Sunday, let’s read the pro-life Bible verses that best show God’s recognition of the pre-born.

King David

14. Psalm 139:13-16 NASB

Most Sanctity of Life sermons focus on Psalm 139, written by King David. The key verses say:

For You formed my inward parts;
You wove me in my mother’s womb.
I will give thanks to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
Wonderful are Your works,
And my soul knows it very well.
My frame was not hidden from You,
When I was made in secret,
And skillfully wrought in the depths of the earth;
Your eyes have seen my unformed substance;
And in Your book were all written
The days that were ordained for me,
When as yet there was not one of them.

David was a gifted writing and clearly inspired by the Holy Spirit. As believers, we understand that his Psalms were written for him, for the kingdom of Israel, and for us.

However, abortion-minded women and non-believers may say that David was different because God chose him to be king, that David had a special calling on his life and therefore the verses don’t apply to the unwanted pre-born.

13. Psalm 22:10 NASB

David also said these words:

“Upon You I was cast from birth;
You have been my God from my mother’s womb.”

Jeremiah

12. Jeremiah 1:5a NASB

Jeremiah was also known by the Lord before he was born:

“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you,
And before you were born I consecrated you”

Job

11. Job 31:15 NASB

Job recognizes that God made him in the womb:

“Did not He who made me in the womb make him,
And the same one fashion us in the womb?”

Jacob and Esau

Jacob and Esau, twins, were known in the womb and referenced by Hosea and Paul.

10. Genesis 25:22 ESV

The children (Jacob and Esau) struggled together within her, and she said, “If it is thus, why is this happening to me?” So she went to inquire of the Lord.

9. Hosea 12:3a NASB

In the womb he (Jacob) took his brother by the heel

8. Romans 9:10-11 NASB

And not only this, but there was Rebekah also, when she had conceived twins by one man, our father Isaac; for though the twins (Jacob and Esau) were not yet born and had not done anything good or bad, so that God’s purpose according to His choice would stand, not because of works but because of Him who calls

Sampson

7. Judges 16:17 ESV

Sampson knew that God recognized him before he was borne:

And he told her all his heart, and said to her, “A razor has never come upon my head, for I have been a Nazirite to God from my mother’s womb. If my head is shaved, then my strength will leave me, and I shall become weak and be like any other man.”

Christ

Christ spoke these words through Isaiah:

6. Isaiah 49:1 NASB

Listen to Me, O islands,
And pay attention, you peoples from afar.
The Lord called Me from the womb;
From the body of My mother He named Me.

5. Isaiah 49:5 NASB

And now says the Lord, who formed Me from the womb to be His Servant,
To bring Jacob back to Him, so that Israel might be gathered to Him
(For I am honored in the sight of the Lord,
And My God is My strength)

Paul, the Apostle

4. Galatians 1:15 NASB

The apostle Paul knew he was formed in the womb:
But when God, who had set me apart even from my mother’s womb and called me through His grace, was pleased…

Pro-Life Bible Verses about All People

3. Psalm 127:3 ESV

Solomon wrote these words:

Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord,
the fruit of the womb a reward.

2. Isaiah 44:24 NASB

What may be more convincing is this verse about God knowing all the people of Israel before they were born:

Thus says the Lord, your Redeemer, and the one who formed you from the womb,
“I, the Lord, am the maker of all things,
Stretching out the heavens by Myself
And spreading out the earth all alone,

If I had heard this verse when I was abortion-minded, I would’ve believed that it applied to me and therefore to my baby. However, I can see that some people may say that the verse only applies to Jews because God was speaking to and about the Jews.

The Best Pro-Life Bible Verses

The verses, though, that were most convincing to me require a little knowledge of Greek. Fortunately, we can look up Greek meanings for free using the Blue Letter Bible website.

The New Testament was written in Greek. The Greek word brephos is used to refer to both a pre-born baby (Luke 1:41, 44) and children (Luke 18:15-17). Ironically, Luke was a doctor and the only Gentile (or non-Jewish) writer of the Bible.

Luke 1:41, 44 ESV

When Elizabeth heard Mary’s greeting, the baby (brephos) leaped in her womb; and Elizabeth was filled with the Holy Spirit.

And when Elizabeth heard the greeting of Mary, the baby (brephos) leaped in her womb. And Elizabeth was filled with the Holy Spirit.

Luke 18:15-17 NASB

And they were bringing even their babies (brephos) to Him so that He would touch them, but when the disciples saw it, they began rebuking them. But Jesus called for them, saying, “Permit the children to come to Me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these. Truly I say to you, whoever does not receive the kingdom of God like a child will not enter it at all.”

I pray that these verses help you convince your Christian sisters (and brothers) that the Lord has recognized them in the womb as well as all unwanted pre-born.

In Christ,

cheryl-1

Talking to the Abortion-Minded

Being pro-life is being pro-woman. Today was the real women’s march.

Dear Christian Sisters,

One of my dear friends encouraged me to join a radio conversation in which the host asked callers how they talk to those who are pro-choice.

I realized that my response would make a good blog post, so here is what I said.

I respond to the pro-choice by talking only about the woman, not the killing of babies. I do not say “mother” but instead “woman,” and I do not call the baby a baby but instead “pre-born” because, so far, that term does not make them angry.

I used to be pro-choice, and I’ve had an abortion. I volunteered for the Planned Parenthood Action Fund and counter-protested Christians who were picketing an abortion clinic (in the early 1990s). I know how they think because I used to be one of them.

I tell the abortion-minded what abortion does to women. I tell them that I had an abortion. That usually stops all their arguments right there. But I continue to tell them statistics on depression and how even though I wasn’t clinically depressed, I had no joy, that my joy was sucked away with my baby. The word “sucked” emphasizes the horror of abortion.

I am on a quest to teach the pro-life to talk to the abortion-minded so that we can love them over the life line. I was loved over the life line.

I have begun writing the Faces of Abortion Series of books (1st one out soon), which will have many Christian post-abortive women’s stories so that the pro-life movement is equipped to talk to the pro-choice movement.

Being pro-life is being pro-woman. Today was the real women’s march.

In Christ,

Cheryl

Share with Love

Dear Christian Sisters,

As I’m sure you’ve already seen on social media, it’s Sanctity of Life Month.

This month, we remind those in the United States that we oppose Roe v Wade, which was decided 46 years ago on January 22, 1973.

This month more than others, you’ll see many pro-life posts all over social media. I just wanted to remind you to share them with love.

Remember that there are millions of post-abortive women in the United States and in the church. Let us win them into the family of Christ where they can be healed with Christ’s love.

Remember there are millions of abortion-minded women who can sympathize with women in crisis.  Let us win them with the truth of God’s love— because God loves them so much that He doesn’t want them to experience the emotional and spiritual pain of abortion.

Let’s take extra care to share posts that show our love and care for women who are scared—scared about their finances, scared about being judged, scared about losing career opportunities, scared about what their parents or boyfriends will say.

I’ll be sharing posts throughout this month. You can follow me on:cheryl-socialmedia

In Christ,

cheryl-1

The Scary Mask of Abortion

Dear Christian Sisters,

It’s Halloween, and I’m anticipating the usual crowd of masked children adorably asking for candy at my door. Every year, I offer full-size candy bars in exchange for Bible verses. Sadly, many don’t know what a Bible verse is.

And if they don’t even know what a Bible verse is, then they certainly don’t know that both abortion and extra-marital sex are against God’s commandments. Do our Christian children even know that?

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By about the age of 13, all Hebrew children at the time of Jesus knew not to have extra-marital sex and certainly not to kill their babies. So why don’t our children?

Tonight, I’ll see hundreds of children wearing masks because it’s fun to get dressed up. And I’ll wonder how many of them will grow up and later wear the mask of abortion.

Because that’s what abortion is–a mask for the sin of extra-marital sex (in about 85% of abortions*). When they choose abortion, they will become the walking dead like I was.

According to the Guttmacher Institute (Planned Parenthood’s statistical arm), 23.7% of women in the USA will have an abortion by age 45. That means we have:

  • 23.7% of women who are the walking dead
  • 23.7% of women telling other women that abortion is normal and no big deal
  • 23.7% of women advocating for abortion to remain legal

Now, that’s scary.

So, what are we going to do? My immediate response is to teach the children at my door John 14:6–Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.” Then to put a “Romans Road” track in their bag because the first step is to bring them into our family of Christ.

But beyond that, my job is to teach my children–and my children do know. Do yours?

What about their friends at church? According to a study by Care Net, about 30% of post-abortive women identify as Christians. That number should be zero.

We have sex education in the schools every year from about fourth grade through tenth grade. Do we have sex education in our churches every year? I applaud those who do.

As The Church, we need to make disciples so that our children know what the Bible is and then we need to teach them all that Jesus commanded so that they know not to abort and not to have extra-marital sex. This is the Great Commission in action.

“Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you. And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age.”
(Matthew 28:19-20)

In Christ,

cheryl-1

* The other approximately 15% of abortions are the result of medical differences of the baby and rape (which is only about 1%).

A Different Kind of #ShoutYourAbortion Movement

#Shoutyourabortion claims that abortion is no big deal because everyone does it. The truth is that 92% of post-abortive women experience emotional deadening.

Dear Christian Sisters,

Let me start by apologizing for not writing to you for so many months. I have been absent from my blog because I’ve been walking through more life tests. Although the Lord has been faithful to lead me through these tests, my ability to hear His will for this blog has been muffled.

Until this morning.

Early Morning Quiet Time with God

Until today, I have been sleeping in over the summer, having my quiet time with the Lord after breakfast. Lately, I’ve been struggling to get back on my early morning schedule because I am a night person. However, I know that my early morning prayer time makes the school year go so much more smoothly, so I need to get back on track.

This morning, though, I had no problem waking up. No coffee needed! The Lord woke me up at 5:30 am with very clear messages for this blog, so I am writing to you to tell you all that He impressed on my heart.

Writing about Abortion from the Woman’s Perspective

One of the things that I’ve been doing amidst the hardest test of late (which I will tell you about in another post) is writing my memoir. I am editing it now and plan to publish this fall.

Three Books In Process

The first of three books, my memoir is currently titled One Face of Abortion. Books two and three will be Faces of Abortion, Book One and Faces of Abortion, Book Two (with an awesome subtitle that I am not yet revealing).Future books by Cheryl Krichbaum

Whereas the first book is my abortion story (well, really it’s my full testimony), books two and three will contain many abortion stories from repentant Christian women. Why? Because you need to hear the devastating effects of abortion on women and the lies and life circumstances that led them to abort. To be effective in how we minister to abortion-minded women, we need to better understand them.

(Would you be willing to let me tell your story in one of my books? You may be anonymous, if you’d like. If you’ll allow me to interview you, please contact me through MybodyMyworship!)

The intent is not to celebrate our abortions—far from it! The intent is to tell the truth about the devastating effects of abortions on our lives.

The #ShoutYourAbortion Movement Is a Lie

The #shoutyourabortion movement is about removing the stigma of abortion for women who are still trying to justify their “choice.”

The lie of the #shoutyourabortion movement is that abortion is a good thing or at least that it’s no big deal.#ShoutYourAbortion is a lie

The truth is that abortion has devastating effects on women’s psyches and our spiritual lives.

Spiritual lives? But pro-choice women aren’t Christians, you say–Not all true!

  • 35% of women were attending a Christian church once a month or more at the time of their first abortion.
  • 27% of post-abortive women identify as Catholic.
  • 26% of post-abortive women identify as Protestant.
  • 15% of post-abortive women identify as nondenominational. (Care Net 2016)

Further, many post-abortive women, whether they identify as Christian or not, don’t think that they can set foot in a church. I don’t have statistics, but I keep hearing it:

“God won’t forgive me.”
“I’m not worthy of God’s love.”
“I’m not good enough for church.”

With the pro-life focus on dead babies, we don’t often hear about the psychological effects of abortion on women—the very ones who are making most of the decisions to abort.

It’s time to change that. That’s why I title my blog “Changing the Conversation.” Here are some statistics on the effects of abortion on women:

  • 92% of post-abortive women experience emotional deadening.
  • 86% of post-abortive women experience anger or rage. (Although not in the study, I would add bitterness based on my own experience.)
  • 86% of post-abortive women fear others finding out.
  • 82% of post-abortive women experience intense feelings of loneliness or isolation.
  • 63% of post-abortive women experience denial.
  • 58% of post-abortive women battle nightmares.
  • 56% of post-abortive women develop suicidal feelings.
  • 53% of post-abortive women engage in drug abuse.
  • 39% of post-abortive women have eating disorders.
  • (See “Medical Reports” in Citations.)

I experienced emotional deadening. I called myself the walking dead long before the TV show aired. I was bitter. I feared others finding out. I lost my joy.

Post-Abortive Men Feel It, Too

Further, we are on the tip of the iceberg, so to speak, on the devastating effects of abortion on post-abortive men—the very ones who supported or even pressured women to abort. A woman’s sex partner is the number one influencer on her decision (see the Care Net study). That was true for me, too.

I look forward to hearing from post-abortive, repentant Christian men.

Need a New Hashtag

It’s time for us to speak up! Perhaps we need a new hashtag! Is #speakuppostabortiveChristians too long?

In Christ,

Cheryl

PS. If you or someone you know has had an abortion and is hiding in shame, find a Christian pregnancy center or church near you that offers an abortion healing class. Search Care Net for a pregnancy center. Two abortion healing curricula are Surrendering the Secret (this is the one that I did) and Forgiven and Set Free (which my friend did).

Citations:

Care Net. “Study of Women Who Have Had an Abortion & Their Views on Church.” 2016.

“Medical Reports/Women’s Health/Abortion…Is There a Connection?” from noelforlife.org