Dear Christian Sisters,
Let me start by apologizing for not writing to you for so many months. I have been absent from my blog because I’ve been walking through more life tests. Although the Lord has been faithful to lead me through these tests, my ability to hear His will for this blog has been muffled.
Until this morning.
Early Morning Quiet Time with God
Until today, I have been sleeping in over the summer, having my quiet time with the Lord after breakfast. Lately, I’ve been struggling to get back on my early morning schedule because I am a night person. However, I know that my early morning prayer time makes the school year go so much more smoothly, so I need to get back on track.
This morning, though, I had no problem waking up. No coffee needed! The Lord woke me up at 5:30 am with very clear messages for this blog, so I am writing to you to tell you all that He impressed on my heart.
Writing about Abortion from the Woman’s Perspective
One of the things that I’ve been doing amidst the hardest test of late (which I will tell you about in another post) is writing my memoir. I am editing it now and plan to publish this fall.
Three Books In Process
The first of three books, my memoir is currently titled One Face of Abortion. Books two and three will be Faces of Abortion, Book One and Faces of Abortion, Book Two (with an awesome subtitle that I am not yet revealing).
Whereas the first book is my abortion story (well, really it’s my full testimony), books two and three will contain many abortion stories from repentant Christian women. Why? Because you need to hear the devastating effects of abortion on women and the lies and life circumstances that led them to abort. To be effective in how we minister to abortion-minded women, we need to better understand them.
(Would you be willing to let me tell your story in one of my books? You may be anonymous, if you’d like. If you’ll allow me to interview you, please contact me through MybodyMyworship!)
The intent is not to celebrate our abortions—far from it! The intent is to tell the truth about the devastating effects of abortions on our lives.
The #ShoutYourAbortion Movement Is a Lie
The #shoutyourabortion movement is about removing the stigma of abortion for women who are still trying to justify their “choice.”
The lie of the #shoutyourabortion movement is that abortion is a good thing or at least that it’s no big deal.
The truth is that abortion has devastating effects on women’s psyches and our spiritual lives.
Spiritual lives? But pro-choice women aren’t Christians, you say–Not all true!
- 35% of women were attending a Christian church once a month or more at the time of their first abortion.
- 27% of post-abortive women identify as Catholic.
- 26% of post-abortive women identify as Protestant.
- 15% of post-abortive women identify as nondenominational. (Care Net 2016)
Further, many post-abortive women, whether they identify as Christian or not, don’t think that they can set foot in a church. I don’t have statistics, but I keep hearing it:
“God won’t forgive me.”
“I’m not worthy of God’s love.”
“I’m not good enough for church.”
With the pro-life focus on dead babies, we don’t often hear about the psychological effects of abortion on women—the very ones who are making most of the decisions to abort.
It’s time to change that. That’s why I title my blog “Changing the Conversation.” Here are some statistics on the effects of abortion on women:
- 92% of post-abortive women experience emotional deadening.
- 86% of post-abortive women experience anger or rage. (Although not in the study, I would add bitterness based on my own experience.)
- 86% of post-abortive women fear others finding out.
- 82% of post-abortive women experience intense feelings of loneliness or isolation.
- 63% of post-abortive women experience denial.
- 58% of post-abortive women battle nightmares.
- 56% of post-abortive women develop suicidal feelings.
- 53% of post-abortive women engage in drug abuse.
- 39% of post-abortive women have eating disorders.
(See “Medical Reports” in Citations.)
I experienced emotional deadening. I called myself the walking dead long before the TV show aired. I was bitter. I feared others finding out. I lost my joy.
Post-Abortive Men Feel It, Too
Further, we are on the tip of the iceberg, so to speak, on the devastating effects of abortion on post-abortive men—the very ones who supported or even pressured women to abort. A woman’s sex partner is the number one influencer on her decision (see the Care Net study). That was true for me, too.
I look forward to hearing from post-abortive, repentant Christian men.
Need a New Hashtag
It’s time for us to speak up! Perhaps we need a new hashtag! Is #speakuppostabortiveChristians too long?
PS. If you or someone you know has had an abortion and is hiding in shame, find a Christian pregnancy center or church near you that offers an abortion healing class. Search Care Net for a pregnancy center. Two abortion healing curricula are Surrendering the Secret (this is the one that I did) and Forgiven and Set Free (which my friend did).
“Medical Reports/Women’s Health/Abortion…Is There a Connection?” from noelforlife.org