Abortion Hurts Women Spiritually

Dear Christian Sisters and Brothers,

This headline makes me so angry! No wonder so many women in The Church abort—they are not hearing the truth!

36% of women who abort go to church at least once per month (Care-Net 2016).

Faith comes by hearing and hearing by the word of Christ. (Romans 10:17 NASB)

So Jesus said to the Jews who had believed him, “If you abide in my word, you are truly my disciples, and you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” (John 8:31-32 ESV)

As a post-abortive woman myself, let me explain what abortion does to women spiritually.

I have yet to hear the following message in any Sanctity of Life sermon, but every woman and man needs to hear it.

God is Holy, and He Hates Sin

God has set standards for how we are to live, not because He wants to control us or take away our fun but because He loves us as a perfect Father does.

Now, we do not have perfect fathers here on earth, and many of you have broken relationships with your imperfect fathers. I realize that our broken view of fatherhood makes it difficult to see God as a loving Father, but perhaps you can imagine with me.

Anyone remember the TV show Leave It to Beaver? Remember how the father worked hard, provided for his family, and loved his wife and his boys?

How about the father in the Brady Bunch?

My Three Sons?

How about Liam Neeson’s character in the “Taken” series of movies? Clearly he’s imperfect but fiercely protective of his virgin daughter.

God, as Our Father, Creates Standards for Us Because He Loves Us

God is love. (1 John 4:8)

From the Old Testament to the New, God removed the food standards (all the standards for eating kosher foods), but He did not remove the moral standards. We can read these moral standards in the 10 Commandments and other places.

Jesus reiterated the 10 Commandments by telling His Jewish audience to love God and love people.

When our parents create boundaries for us—or standards—we know that if we do not follow their rules, we will experience consequences, such as a time-out when we’re little or losing privileges when we’re teenagers.

God, our loving Father, taught parents to create standards because that’s what He does. We are to reflect His fatherhood. We are imperfect people and therefore imperfect parents (just ask my boys), so we do not reflect God perfectly, but we are called to try.

God’s standards include keeping sex within marriage and not murdering. (Before you get mad at me, remember that I have not kept either of these standards.)

If you need a reminder of the Bible verses that show these standards, see the links below to my other websites:

Best Pro-Life Bible Verses

Bible Verses on Sexual Immorality

So, what happens when we break God’s standards? I think the best example is to look at King David’s life.

David and Bathsheba

David’s whole story shows us a man of great faith (God calls Him a man after His own heart [Acts 13:22]) but also a man of a great imperfections.

Let’s look at what happens to David when he does not keep sex within marriage and then murders to cover his sin.

You are probably familiar with David and Bathsheba’s story, but let me give you a quick reminder. The short version is that David used his kingly power to have sex with another man’s wife and then killed the man to cover up his sin (see 2 Samuel 11).

Today in the United States, you might expect a rich man to offer his mistress money for an abortion or even pressure her into having an abortion. But that’s not what David does.

Why not? Because the Hebrews valued babies.

Until Nathan confronts David, the king thinks he has gotten away with his sin of extra-marital sex and of murder.

After Nathan explains things, David immediately takes responsibility and confesses his sin (see 2 Samuel 12).

The Spiritual Consequences of Murder and Adultery

David then goes into the Tent of Meeting and sings his confession, as recorded in Psalm 51. He also sings Psalm 32. From these two Psalms, we learn what happens when we murder and commit adultery:

  • When we keep silent about our sin, our bodies waste away. (Ps 32:3)
  • The Lord’s hand is heavy upon us. (Ps 32:4)
  • Our vitality is drained away. (Ps 32:4)
  • We yearn to hear joy and gladness again. (Ps 51:8)
  • We can’t wait for our broken bones to rejoice. (Ps 51:8)
  • We want to feel the Holy Spirit within us. (Ps 51:11)
  • We want to be renewed with a steadfast spirit. (Ps 51:10)
  • We want to be restored with the joy of salvation. (Ps 51:12)

Why do we desire the Holy Spirit? Because when we have more of the Holy Spirit, we have more fruit of the Spirit—love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Gal 5:22-23).

In my memoir, ReTested, I explain my 14 or so years between my abortion and my confession as walking through life dead inside. I called myself “the walking dead” before there was a TV show by that name!

Pastoral Leadership

So, Methodist, Baptist, Lutheran, Presbyterian, and United Church of Christ pastors in Tennessee, when you tell women that it’s okay to abort, you are telling them that it’s okay to live separated from God, that God doesn’t mind that they murdered, that it’s okay to walk around like zombies.

The truth is that Jesus came to set us free (Galatians 5:1) and so that we can have abundant life (John 10:10). Abortion does not result in abundant life. It results in drained vitality (Psalm 32:4; John 10:10).

Your letter to Tennessee Gov. Bill Lee is not the kind of leadership we women deserve. We deserve to be:

  • taught the truth (John 8:31-32; Acts 17:10-11).
  • gently rebuked like Nathan gently rebuked David (2 Samuel 12) and Jesus gently rebuked the woman at the well (John 4:4-42) and the woman caught in adultery (John 8:1-11).
  • taught the path to renewed vitality (Matthew 6:12-15) so that we can live abundantly (John 10:10).

Further, for those women who do not believe that Jesus is the Christ who died for our sins (Romans 5:8), was raised from the dead (Romans 10:9-10), and today sits at the right hand of God, you are telling them that it’s okay to be forever separated from their babies and spend eternity separated from God.

And just to appeal to the practical nature of running your local church, if you want women to serve in the church, get them freed from their sins.

Freedom Is Available, and It’s Awesome!

If you have been involved in an abortion—whether you had one yourself or “supported” a woman through one—you can have your vitality renewed, like I did.

The path to renewed vitality is confession (Matthew 6:12, 14-15) and returning to God (John 8:11).

We protestants do not spend enough time talking about the benefits of confession. Let me just tell you from my own experience that confession and forgiveness results in freedom and abundant life!

And freedom is awesome!

Post-Abortion Healing Is Available!

Post-abortion healing classes are offered through pregnancy centers and some churches using curricula like Surrendering the Secret and Forgiven and Set Free. The Catholic Church offers Project Rachel.

Men who have pressured a woman, drove her to the clinic, or paid for the abortion need healing, too. Some pregnancy centers offer classes for them as well. A common curriculum is Healing a Father’s Heart.

The links to books above are affiliate links. Any remuneration that I receive from affiliate links are used to pay for my three websites: CherylKrichbaum.blog, MybodyMyworship.org, and FacesofAbortion.com. Please contact me if you have any questions.

In Christ,

Cheryl

ReTested Available for Pre-Order

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ReTested, the first book in the Faces of Abortion Series, is available for pre-order!

In Christ,

Cheryl

P.S. The links above are affiliate links, meaning that at no additional cost to you, I may earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase. Any remuneration that I receive helps pay for my websites (CherylKrichbaum.blog, MybodyMyworship.org, FacesofAbortion.com).

40 Days of Prayer Day 9

Dear Christian Sisters,

Let us continue to pray with my friend Heidi for the end of legalized abortion here in the United States.

Heavenly Father,

We continue to be shocked by the brazen actions of Virginia lawmakers who submitted a bill allowing abortion up to the moment of birth for virtually any reason.

And by the words of the Virginia Governor who suggests that abortion AFTER birth is something to be discussed.

We praise you, Lord, for putting that bill to death for now, although with elections coming in November and several conservative seats up for grabs, we pray you’ll put that bill to death for good.

I remember the words of Joni Eareckson Tada:

“And gradually, though no one remembers exactly how it happened, the unthinkable becomes tolerable. And then acceptable. And then legal. And then applaudable.”

We have fallen for it and the conscience of an entire nation has become seared.

Lord, forgive us for sitting idly by! We repent of our inaction and beg you to ignite fire in us all. Raise us up together in a cloud of unstoppable righteous anger and let our voice be thunderous across the land.

This is not political. All of humanity is at stake, for the agenda doesn’t stop. First they sold us the “viability” bill of goods. Then they preached, “safe, legal, and rare,” and we swallowed it.

Then it was a woman’s ‘right’ to choose, and now we don’t even blink as they murder babies about to be born–and celebrate their victory.

The next step is ALREADY here…delicate rhetoric about keeping a newborn comfortable while the ‘discussion’ takes place. The line has been left way behind and life now only has value where it is convenient.

AND LORD, WE BOUGHT IT ALL, keeping quiet because we don’t think we have a voice or we’re not into politics. Some of us don’t even vote.

We look to you, Father, for help on what to do next. Don’t let this die away but move mightily for the babies. Give us a voice that screams the truth and won’t back down, so that the gates of hell cannot prevail.

We know only YOU can make the deep, deep changes that our country needs, but we also know You use your people to do Your work. We stand at the ready, Lord Jesus. Here we are, send us!

We praise you for we are fearfully and wonderfully made!

ALL OF US

In Jesus’ powerful Name we pray!
Amen

In Christ,

Cheryl

Prepare Us, O Lord: Day 8 of 40 Days of Prayer

Dear Christian Sisters,

Heidi’s prayer for today addresses one of the arguments from pro-choicers—what are Christians doing about the orphans today and do they really think they can take care of all the children once Roe v Wade and state laws are overturned?

Although I hate to talk politics, Heidi’s prayer addresses one of the biggest perceptions of the pro-life party: Republicans want fewer government programs.

I am neither Republican nor Democrat, and I do not want to get into a political debate because the answer to the abortion crisis is not in politics.

What I do want to do is point out the perception of the pro-choice movement. From their perspective, pro-life = Republican = ReTested_3DLeft-Facing-400Evangelical. We all know that is not 100% true, and I would argue that it shouldn’t be true. However, that is the perception that we need to address.

I can already foresee that I’m making you uncomfortable, so later today I will send you the introduction to my first book in the Faces of Abortion Series. The book will be out in April, but I will be happy to share the short introduction with you today.

In the meantime, let us pray with Heidi about how we are going to align our works with our beliefs.

Heavenly Father,

This morning I woke up considering what life will be like when You move as mightily as we’ve been asking. What will happen when abortion is outlawed once and for all?

Over 2,000 babies are killed every day, so that means we’ll have over 2,000 babies, PER DAY, who need loving homes. Some of those mothers will keep and rear their children–and they will need lots of emotional and material support.

A majority will depend on willing adoptive parents. Many of those babies will have physical and mental disabilities. There will be serious needs.

Of course, there will be desperate women who would seek an illegal abortion, and we pray, Father, that you would protect them and calm them and give them good information and honest perspective.

Lord God, as we pray fervently for the end to this abortion era and seek to promote and cultivate an attitude of life, hope, and contentment in our culture, help us to be ready!

Work in our hearts to back up our words with deeds and to use our words to spur each other on to love and good deeds.

Prepare the adoption agencies for the flood of new life. Convict and prepare the hearts of those who can parent these children, especially the ones with extra needs.

Give us opportunity to bless and comfort the desperate ones and help us to reach out in real support of mothers who chose to keep their own children. They will need us.

We all need to be ready to make real sacrifices to fully honor the pro-life mindset and ultimately to honor You, the Glorious Author of Every Life.

All Honor and Glory be Yours, Lord God Almighty.

In Jesus’ Name,
Amen

In Christ,

Cheryl

Praying for Post-Abortive Women: Day 7 of 40 Days of Prayer

Dear Christian Sisters,

My friend Heidi is so gracious to pray for women who have had abortions.

I, too, pray that post-abortive women will receive God’s healing not just because it’s the right thing to do but because healing will help end abortion.

Forty-five percent of women aborting in 2014 reported having had at least one prior abortion, according to the Guttmacher Institute (funded by Planned Parenthood).

I contend that it’s easier to have a second abortion because we’re already dead inside from the first abortion. I would’ve had another abortion if Russ hadn’t introduced me to Christ.

If women receive healing sooner, they may not have another abortion. Think about the reduction in numbers of abortions if we got women healed early.

At the end of the prayer, I’ll provide resources so that you know where to guide women who tell you they’ve had an abortion.

Gracious Lord Jesus,

Today I pray for the mothers. Many differing reasons propel a woman through the clinic doors. Some are ill informed, some don’t care, some feel they have no other options, some feel pressured. Today I’m remembering the women who have made the choice and then come to deeply regret it.

Father, I can imagine that there is no other heartache that strikes more to the core, no grief more crushing, no sorrow that shrouds more deeply, and no pain that stings longer.

We lift them up to you, Father. Hold them and hear them, forgive them, whisper your grace and tender love into their waiting ears, refresh their souls. There is a river whose streams make glad the city of God. Wash them in it, Lord. Give them peace.

How beautiful on the mountains are the feet of those who bring good news, who proclaim peace and salvation, who bring good tidings. Thank you, Lord God, for post-abortion counseling, available at many pregnancy centers.

Lord, thank you for these women who are trained to help women deal with the overwhelming flood of emotion that follows their decision, even if it’s years and years later. Bless them as they go about your work of healing, redeeming, and binding up.

Heavenly Father, we beg you again. Please change the laws across our nation. Restore our dignity. Rescue the babies and Give mothers the courage and means to say yes to life. We long to magnify your glory and we long to see you end this horrifying era of abortion in the United States.

We ask it in the name of Jesus,
Amen.

Post-abortion healing classes are offered through pregnancy centers and some churches using curriculum like Surrendering the Secret and Forgiven and Set Free. The Catholic Church offers Project Rachel.

Men who have pressured a woman, drove her to the clinic, or paid for the abortion need healing, too. Some pregnancy centers offer classes for them as well. A common curriculum is Healing a Father’s Heart.

The links to books above are affiliate links. Any remuneration that I receive from affiliate links are used to pay for my three websites: CherylKrichbaum.blog, MybodyMyworship.org, and FacesofAbortion.com. Please contact me if you have any questions.

In Christ,

Cheryl

40 Days of Prayer: Day 5

Dear Christian Sisters,

Let’s call out for healing! Please pray along with Heidi as one voice to the Lord.

Holy Lord God Almighty,

2,310 babies died brutal deaths in our country today. Today.

I found a website that counts them in real time.

All those particular fingerprints, maturing brains, fluttering eyelids, and thumbs in mouths will never see the light of day. Today, while we went about our normal Sunday, they have had their moments of panic and pain. They have been ripped and seared and murdered in levels of violence not seen elsewhere. It is mind numbing, and I find myself in another round of shock.

I just learned that NY is not alone in its quest to kill children, although NY seems alone in its desire to publicly celebrate the killing of children. The states with the most lenient abortion laws–up to birth– are Oregon, Vermont, Colorado, New Hampshire, the District of Columbia, Alaska, New Jersey, and New Mexico. If I feel sick to my stomach and emotionally overcome, Lord God, how much more offensive must it be to You.

We know you so well. We know You act in Love–You define yourself as Love. We’ve seen your answers to prayers. We know Your promises and Your goodness. We’ve experienced Your presence, and we live in the midst of Your mighty blessings. We also know your justice, graciously meted out on the cross for our sins, but also present in modern day culture. I can’t imagine a worse judgement than this slaughter of innocents.

If Your people who are called by your name will humble themselves and pray, if we seek your face, and turn from our wicked ways; then will You hear from heaven, and will forgive our sin, and will heal our land. Our land is in desperate need of healing, but we need humility, seeking, and turning just as badly. Cause Your people to humble themselves and pray, Oh Lord God, to make us more like You, and to bring an end to the era of abortion in the United States.

In the Mighty Name of Jesus we pray,
Amen

Let us also remember that for every baby killed, a woman’s vitality is drained away, and she probably doesn’t even know it. And then there are the men who pressured her or paid for the abortion or the moms and friends who supported her choice or the doctors who recommended aborting.

There are so many people involved, and they all need Christ. They all need healing.

Let us be Christ’s ambassadors, leading them to the healing faith of Jesus Christ. Can you imagine how loud a chorus of trumpets we’d be against the pro-choice movement? A trumpet choir of post-abortive women and men who regret their “choice” will not be silenced.

If you know someone who needs healing from an abortion, help them find a post-abortion healing class from your local crisis pregnancy center or church. Surrendering the Secret is the class that I took. Freedom on this side of healing is amazing!

In Christ,

Cheryl

40 Days of Prayer: Day 4

Dear Christian Sisters,

As we pray along with Heidi, we are also praying along with 40 Days for Life, which is the organization that loved Abby Johnson over the life line.

You can read (or listen to) Abby’s story in Unplanned,** which is also a movie that will soon be released on March 29. Put it on your calendar and go see it opening weekend!

Now let us continue to pray with Heidi for life!

Lord God Almighty,

We are rejoicing with Iowans who have scored BIG in this battle! Governor Kim Reynolds ratified a bill to make abortion after 6 weeks ILLEGAL, (except in the usual extreme cases). Since many women do not even know of their pregnancy by 6 weeks, You have just made Iowa a “sanctuary state” for the unborn. A safe haven for the innocent. We praise you, Father, for this refreshing victory.

Of course, lawsuits are planned and many are decrying the injustice of this action. The battle has likely just begun in Iowa and so we lift them up to You for safety, confidence, and bravery in the face of razor-sharp opposition.

But it isn’t enough just to limit abortion. We are begging You to make 2019 the complete end of the era of (legalized) abortion in the United States. It’s a big request, but You are bigger. It’s a huge paradigm shift, but you are capable of more. And of course, this one request is wrapped up in a whole lot more.

The end of the era requires a cultural transformation to value and celebrate LIFE at every level and in every form. We’re asking, Lord. We’re asking this massive thing because You are greater.

And we pray it in the precious Name of Jesus.
Amen

In Christ,

Cheryl

**The link to the Unplanned book is an affiliate link to Amazon. Every penny go towards paying for all three of my websites (this one, MybodyMyworship, and Faces of Abortion Series).

40 Days of Prayer: Day 3

Dear Christian Sisters,

Let’s continue to pray with Heidi. Let us remember that abortion affects the women and men who abort as well. I am testimony to that. Many women and men are testimony to that.

Lord God Almighty,

The shock is starting to wear off and lots of emotions are flooding in to take its place. Anger, depression, resolve, outrage. There is NEVER a medical reason for an abortion in the third trimester. You have blessed us with incredible medical care and babies can survive outside the womb at that point. It is murder purely for convenience, willful, premeditated, first degree murder. What has happened to our hearts that we as a nation think this is ok?

Lord, so many of us do NOT think this is ok, but we feel helpless and lack the power, know how, or the connections to do anything about it. And so here we are, banging on the doors of heaven, beseeching your mercy, looking for direction, begging for big changes. And many of us are crying out, “Here we are, Lord, SEND US!” We need a plan and the resources to work it. Our trust is completely in You and we wait for your direction.

May your glory fill the earth, and may we be agents of your glory. Save the babies—and their moms and dads–Lord Jesus and bring an end to the era of (legalized) abortion in the United States.

In the Holy Name of Jesus Christ we pray,
Amen

In Christ,

Cheryl

40 Days of Prayer: Day 2

Dear Christian Sisters,

Let us continue to pray as one voice as my friend Heidi leads us.

Heavenly Father,

Our hearts are still torn and shocked and we continue to grope about for some semblance of understanding. Nationwide, people are mourning, expressing outrage, blinking in bewilderment. How did we let this happen? How do we go from here?

Today I pray for the tiny ones, warm and at perfect rest whose mothers are entering the clinic. Those tiny ones whose mothers just don’t know–or are repressing the knowledge. I pray for your comfort to blanket these babies. Help them to not be afraid and to not feel the pain. Send your Spirit to mitigate the evil and to make the journey with them straight into eternity, so they are never alone.

Oh Lord of LIFE, your authority is total, and we lay ourselves before you. Please forgive us. Please remove this horror from our land and bring a swift end to the era of (legalized) abortion in the United States.

All the Glory be unto You, Almighty God.

In Jesus’ name,
Amen

In Christ,

Cheryl

40 Days of Prayer: Day 1

Dear Christian Sisters,

My friend Heidi is a prayer warrior. Her response to New York’s late-term abortion legislation and all the abortion news since then has been to pray. May we all be like her.

With her permission, I am sharing her prayers with you so that we may pray as one voice.

Lord Almighty,

The wind has been knocked out of us. The reality of the evil that has swept over and bound up this country for far too long is raw and real this day. The agenda moves forward. We watch agape as pink lights celebrate, CELEBRATE, the passage of a law allowing more of our babies to be butchered. And other states are contemplating similar measures. What is to be done?

While the snake slithers and laughs its bitter laugh, we come boldly to YOU, heavenly Father, grieving the terrified, agonized babies who die every day. How have we let this happen? How could we close our eyes and cover our ears? How could we let it fade into the background?

Our hands are bloody. Our sin is deep. But you, O Lord, you know. There is none like you. We need forgiveness and healing and a new direction. We need so much! Help us to pray. Hear us and forgive us. Show us the way forward, step by step.

We pray these things in the powerful name of Jesus, Amen.

In Christ,

Cheryl