Busy Philipps’ Fallacy

Dear Christian Sisters and Brothers,

My tween is reading The Fallacy Detective by Nathaniel Bluedorn & Hans Bluedorn for school this spring. The authors teach 38 ways to recognize bad reasoning. It’s fun! and my son loves it!

A fallacy is an error in logic. The Fallacy Detective provides names for different kinds of errors in logic. The one you probably know best is red herring.

My son gets very animated when we read the book because he recognizes the fallacies in the news and on the internet. I just sigh and shake my head, saddened, because I see all the fallacies in the abortion debate.

Most recently, Busy Philipps has been shouting her abortion, and it grieves me that women listen to her because she is a celebrity. Frankly, I’m so old that I only know about her because I’m active in the pro-life movement. (I’m really only 50, so not that old!)

Ms. Philipps claims that she has a career because she had an abortion—at age 15. To assume that she could not have had a career if she had given birth at age 15 is an either-or fallacy.

“When someone asserts that we must choose between two things, when in fact we have more than two alternatives, (s)he is using the either-or fallacy.”—page 125 The Fallacy Detective

Ms. Philipps had the obvious alternative of putting her child up for adoption.

However, women with crisis pregnancies usually choose between raising their babies or aborting their babies. This, too, is an either-or fallacy, but we cannot discount how attached women feel to their pre-born babies. Women intuitively know that they cannot handle the idea of giving birth and then giving away their babies.

And science explains this. Oxytocin is released in abundance during childbirth, and oxytocin is a bonding neurochemical.

The fact that oxytocin bonds women to their babies makes sense both from an evolution perspective and a creation perspective. After all the pain of childbirth, mothers because they bonded to their babies want to protect them, feed them, nurture them, and raise them to be thriving adults. When we do so, the human race continues.

But what women ignore is that they are already bonded to their pre-born babies. If you JoyMariewere to talk to women who regret their abortions, you would find that they know when their babies would’ve been born and how old they would be today. Most know intuitively whether their babies were girls or boys, and many have named their babies.

Women who regret their abortions are grieved that they murdered their babies.

But putting her child up for adoption was not Ms. Philipps only choice. She could have raised her child or co-raised her child with the baby’s grandmother.

Taraji P Henson was in college, not high school, when she had her unplanned pregnancy. People told her she wouldn’t finish her degree. She showed them wrong by walking across the stage at graduation with her son on her hip.

I had a friend in high school who not only finished high school with a newborn but went on to get both her bachelor’s and master’s degrees.

So to say that we women have to choose between career and a baby is an either-or fallacy, but even more so—it’s demeaning to women to say that we’re not strong enough or not capable enough to have a child and a career. Single moms do it all the time.

Praises to you strong, single moms!

To say that we women have to choose between career and a baby also assumes that it’s 1973, and we don’t have equal rights to work. That’s a slap in the face of Ruth Bader Ginsburg and the ACLU, who took case after case through the courts to get rights for women. (See the movie “On the Basis of Sex.”)

One last note on fallacies: To listen to Busy Philipps or Alyssa Milano or even Taraji P Henson because they are celebrities is a faulty appeal to authority, an error in logic (again, see The Fallacy Detective). When we listen to celebrities, we assume that they are authorities because they are famous.

But these women are not authorities on unplanned pregnancies and abortion because they are celebrities. They are authorities because they’ve had unplanned pregnancies and (except Ms. Henson) abortions.

So have I.

In Christ,

Cheryl

P.S. Pray for Busy Philipps and Alyssa Milano and all post-abortive women and men so that they are completely healed, let go of their anger/bitterness/resentment, and feel God’s agape love.

47 Years of Legally Murdering Our Firstborn

Dear Christian Sisters and Brothers,

Today, January 22, 2020, is the 47th anniversary of Roe v Wade and Doe v Bolton.

This is how I feel…

We must pray and worship for the end of abortion. We win this spiritual battle through Christ!

Join me in prayer.

Worship to End Abortion: 40 Daily Prayers

Available exclusively on Amazon

In Christ,

Cheryl

Biblical Reasons for the Sanctity of Life

Dear Christian Sisters & Brothers,

If your pastor preached on the sanctity of life, I would love to hear his/her sermon! Please post links in the comments below.

To equip you with Bible verses on the sanctity of pre-born life and to explain the spiritual consequences of abortion, I recorded a video. Below the video, you’ll find links to resources.

Resources

Best Pro-Life Bible Verses

Spiritual Effects of Abortion

Find post-abortion healing classes at your local pregnancy resource center. You’ll find links to USA and international directories and much more on my website.

Worship to End Abortion: 40 Daily Prayers

In Christ,

Cheryl

Pray Righteously

Dear Christian Sisters and Brothers,

Sometimes, we are in difficult situations, trying to love others while disagreeing wholeheartedly.

You may have this situation in online discussions over abortion.

You may have this situation in your home, disagreeing with your spouse over how to raise your children.

So what is the first thing you do?

The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective. (James 5:16b)

Yes, we need to pray. But before we ask God to give us a hand, we need to pursue a righteous relationship with Him.

Righteousness is not something to strive for. Righteousness is something to surrender to.

Surrender—now there’s a word people don’t like! No one wants to surrender because that means they lose the battle.

But why would you want to be in battle with God?

  • He reverently and wonderfully knit you together in your mother’s womb because He loves you (Ps 139:13-14).
  • He has a plan and a purpose for your life, which is designed for you to enjoy  (Jer 29:11-12).
  • He wants to give you everything to finish your race well (Heb 13:20-21).
  • He works everything together for your good (Rom 8:28).

So, the first step to getting everyone moving in the same direction is to start with ourselves.

That’s what I had to do.

Many years ago, I wanted my husband to change. We were in disagreement about just about everything. I didn’t like his attitude. We didn’t enjoy spending time together.

I thought the only way God was going to change my husband was if I fasted while praying for him. I was certain that God would listen to me then.

But just hours into the fast, someone at church said, “Often we are focused on our husbands when we should be focused on ourselves.”

As my teenager would say—that felt targeted. There was a big bullseye on my heart, and that statement hit right in the center.

I had to work on me, so I filled myself with the Holy Spirit through Bible study, through giving up my self-righteousness, and through prayer for myself.

That same someone at church taught me that I can ask for more of the Holy Spirit, as Luke 11:13 tells us.

Verse 13 is at the end of the “ask, seek, knock” teaching by Jesus, but we usually read the story in the book of Matthew.

In Luke’s telling, Jesus ends his parable by saying:

“If you then, being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask Him!” (Luke 11:13)

As believers, we have the Holy Spirit—but if you’re living life as a grumpy Christian, then certainly you know that you could use more of the Spirit.

When we have more of the Spirit, we have more fruit of the Spirit—love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23).

Do you feel
⇒ loving
⇒ joyful
⇒ at peace (that means not worrying!)
⇒ patient (even when your food order doesn’t arrive right away!)
⇒ kind (even to your barista!)
⇒ good
⇒ faithful (never substituting lattes for God!)
⇒ gentle (always saying things God’s way!)
⇒ self-controlled (even around chips, chocolate, and chai lattes!)
24×7 ?

Yeah, I didn’t think so. Now would be a good time to ask God for more of the Holy Spirit, don’t you think?

This is just one thing that we’re learning and praying for in the MybodyMyworship Group on Facebook as we worship to end abortion. Will you join us?

In Christ,

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Pray for Pastors Ahead of Sanctity of Life Sunday

Dear Christian Sisters & Brothers,

We have a busy week starting with the Women’s March on Saturday and ending with the March for Life the following Friday.

Are you praying and worshiping for the end of abortion?

This weekend is not only Martin Luther King Jr Day but also Sanctity of Life Sunday.Cheryl as the walking deadjoy sucked right out of Cheryl

Please pray for pastors as they prepare their sanctity of life sermons.

Many pastors shy away from preaching about abortion because they view it as a political issue. But first and foremost, it’s a spiritual issue!

Please encourage your pastor! Don’t badger him or her! Just share your support.

And if you’re a pastor looking for more Bible verses beyond Psalm 139 or want another perspective on God’s love for life, visit these two pages:

And you are always welcome to contact me for a testimony or to ask me questions.

In Christ,

Cheryl

2020 Year of Pro-Life Men?

Dear Christians Sisters and Brothers,

Abby Johnson declared 2020 the year of the man’s voice in the abortion debate.

But pro-choice women will just continue to get mad at pro-life men–just ask Alyssa Milano.

What we need are pro-life men teaching pro-abortion men! Because men have a great deal to gain by keeping abortion legal.

With abortion, a man doesn’t have to pay child support.

With abortion, a man doesn’t have to take time to parent his children.

With abortion, a man can walk away from the relationship at any time.

Children tie a man down.

So what we really need is to convince men to change their thinking–to be pro-life.

According to a study by Care Net, men are the most influential on a woman’s choice. So even though women don’t want to admit it, baby daddies are the biggest influencer.

We need good Christian men influencing spiritually lost men for life and for Christ.

In Christ,

Cheryl

Featured in After the Abortion Photography Series

Dear Christian Sisters and Brothers,

On my way to an author conference, I drove to Fort Wayne, IN to dress up like a zombie—not for Halloween but for the After the Abortion Photography Series by Angela Forker, featured on Facebook.zombie-cheryl

In my book, ReTested: The Story of a Post-Abortive Woman Called to Change the Conversation, I describe my abortion to be as perfect as the pro-choice movement promised, but I also explain how I later realized that my joy was sucked out of me right along with my baby.

Angela captured my lack of emotions perfectly, She’s a talented woman.

I was already planning a drive to Columbus, OH for an author conference when I found out that Angela lives just a few hours away in Fort Wayne, so I started my trip a day early.angela-forker

Angela is a sweet soul full of talent and compassion—an obedient servant of God.

I’m also excited to share that my book, which is endorsed by Abby Johnson and Kim Ketola, is a finalist for the conference’s Author Academy Awards, an honor bestowed for literary merit and publishing excellence in the writing and publishing industry.

The award ceremony is tonight. Prayers are appreciated!

In Christ,

Cheryl

Pro-Life, Not Pro-Political Party

When we rally behind a political party rather than LOVE, we anger everyone in the other party and rally our own, resulting in preaching to the choir. The choir doesn’t need convincing.

Dear Christian Sisters and Brothers,

Let’s choose pro-life posts to share on social media, not pro-political party posts.

When we attack a political party, we put people on the defense and they are less open to our points.

We also make abortion an issue only of the USA when it’s actually a worldwide issue.

Reversing Roe v Wade is an interim step, not the final goal. The goal is to make abortion unthinkable worldwide.

Instead, let’s talk about becoming more Christ-like. If people are more like Christ, then God can lead them to vote in the way that meets His purposes…

Which may not be YOUR purposes.

And, let’s get realistic: The Democrats for Life are likely the ones who will turn the political tide in our country.

When we rally behind a political party rather than LOVE, we anger everyone in the other party and rally our own, resulting in preaching to the choir. The choir doesn’t need convincing.

That’s helpful if we’re running for office, but most of us are not.

We’re running the race for Christ.

In Christ,

  • Cheryl

Walking Dead—the Natural Result of Abortion

Dear Christian Sisters & Brothers,

This is the last post in The Spiritual Consequences of Abortion Series, which includes:

To review, here’s what happens when we murder and have sex outside of marriage:

  • When we keep silent about our sin, our bodies waste away (Psalm 32:3).
  • The Lord’s hand is heavy upon us (Psalm 32:4).
  • Our vitality is drained away (Psalm 32:4).
  • We yearn to hear joy and gladness again (Psalm 51:8).
  • We can’t wait for our broken bones to rejoice (Psalm 51:8).
  • We want to be renewed with a steadfast spirit (Psalm 51:10).
  • We want to feel the Holy Spirit within us (Psalm 51:11).
  • We want to be restored with the joy of salvation (Psalm 51:12).

After studying Psalms 32 and 51, I understood what happened to me after I aborted my daughter: My vitality was drained away. That’s why I described myself as the walking dead.

My joy was sucked away. I wanted to feel the joy of my salvation, but I couldn’t until I took responsibility for my sins then confessed and forgave.

Saving Mothers, Too

Abortion not only murders our unborn, it kills women’s souls.

Speaking from experience, sin of this magnitude increases the gulf between us and God.

Reconciling with God becomes a much more difficult thing to do. There’s a big difference between reconciling with God after using His name in vain than after murdering His child.

Therefore, we don’t lose just one of God’s children to abortion but two—the woman and her baby.

And if the father of the baby (1st among influencers over a woman’s choice)—or the grandmother (3rd among influencers) or grandfather (10th among influencers)—supports, pressures, or coerces the woman to have an abortion, then we lose even more.

I say all of this to ask you to compassionately reach the abortion-minded—all those who support abortion as a choice—for Christ so that we not only save the babies but also their mothers, fathers, and grandparents.

Christ came for the tax collectors and the prostitutes, and we are to do the same for all sinners, even those who make us angry.

In Christ,

Cheryl

Author of ReTested: The Story of a Post-Abortive Woman Called to Change the Conversation, finalist for the Author Academy Awards

Citation:
Care Net. 2016, July. “Study of Women Who Have Had an Abortion & Their Views on Church.” Go to: https://resources.care-net.org/free-resources/#lp-pom-text-318

The Consequences of Unconfessed Sin

Dear Christian Sisters & Brothers,

This is a continuation of The Spiritual Consequences of Abortion Series, which includes:

Today, we continue to how King David described the consequences of unconfessed sin.

Despite David’s efforts to cover up his sin, the fighting men seem to have figured out that David had Uriah killed given that Bathsheba’s father was one of the mighty men (2 Samuel 23:34; 11:3) and that her grandfather Ahithophel later conspired against David (2 Samuel 15:31).

Certainly, those working in David’s palace knew that David got Bathsheba pregnant (2 Samuel 11:3-4) and tried to fool Uriah (2 Samuel 11:8-10, 13).

Perhaps all the people in Jerusalem figured out David’s sins (because not all rumors are false) but were afraid to say anything.

Until Nathan confronts David, the king thinks he has gotten away with his sins of extra-marital sex and murder (2 Samuel 11:27).

David Confessed His Sins

After Nathan explains things, David immediately takes responsibility and confesses his sin (2 Samuel 12:1-13).

As you know, David sang nearly half the Psalms. I say sang because psalm means song. Did he write them before he sang them, or did he sing them and then write them down? We don’t know.

But after he takes responsibility for what he did, David goes into the Tent of Meeting and sings his confession, as recorded in Psalm 51.

He also sings Psalm 32. In Psalm 32, David elegantly described what happened while he had unconfessed sin:

When I kept silent about my sin, my body wasted away through my groaning all day long. For day and night Your hand was heavy upon me; my vitality was drained away as with the fever heat of summer. I acknowledged my sin to You and my iniquity I did not hide. I said, “I will confess my transgressions to the Lord”; and You forgave the guilt of my sin. (Psalm 32:3-5 NASB, emphasis mine)

From Psalm 32 and from Psalm 51, we learn what happens when we murder and commit adultery:

  • When we keep silent about our sin, our bodies waste away (Psalm 32:3).
  • The Lord’s hand is heavy upon us (Psalm 32:4).
  • Our vitality is drained away (Psalm 32:4).
  • We yearn to hear joy and gladness again (Psalm 51:8).
  • We can’t wait for our broken bones to rejoice (Psalm 51:8).
  • We want to be renewed with a steadfast spirit (Psalm 51:10).
  • We want to feel the Holy Spirit within us (Psalm 51:11).
  • We want to be restored with the joy of salvation (Psalm 51:12).

More Holy Spirit!

Like King David, once we have confessed we can feel the Holy Spirit within us, and perhaps then other people will see that we have more fruit of the Spirit—

  • love
  • joy
  • peace
  • patience
  • kindness
  • goodness
  • faithfulness
  • gentleness
  • self-control (Galatians 5:22-23)

But there’s more! In Luke 11:13, Jesus gives us permission to ask for even more of the Holy Spirit.

Join me tomorrow when I connect the whole series, explaining how the story of David, Bathsheba, and Uriah relates to the spiritual consequences of abortion.

In Christ,

Cheryl