God Wants His Daughters Back

Dear Christian Sisters,

As I said in my last post titled “Do Not Give Up Speaking Truth,” women who have had abortions are contacting me privately.

In all the recent controversy over late-term abortions, I see God revealing hearts and calling His daughters back to him.

Please receive them in love.

Why Is Our Response Important?

Our response to post-abortive women is important because:

  • Speaking truth in love is what Jesus did—as did my husband.
  • Speaking in love results in repentance, which results in healing and a restored relationship with Christ.
  • Restored post-abortive women can speak boldly about abortion in a way that others cannot and will become a loud trumpet that cannot be ignored.

Speak the Truth in Love

Jesus spoke the truth in love both to the woman at the well, resulting in many Samaritans hearing the Gospel, and to the woman caught in adultery, resulting in her accusers walking away, saving her life.

My husband also spoke the truth in love, and as result I chose personal faith in Jesus as the Christ, reconciled with God, and was healed. You’ll read about my hero in my upcoming book ReTested.

People who prayed outside Abby Johnson‘s Planned Parenthood clinic (40 Days for Life) also spoke the truth in love, as did her husband, resulting in her famously leaving her position as clinic Director and now speaking boldly for the pro-life movement. You can watch her story in the upcoming movie “Unplanned.”

My point? Speaking the truth in love results in people choosing Christ and His path.

Healing & Restoration

Your kind words may lead a woman to a post-abortion healing class offered through pregnancy centers and some churches using curriculum like Surrendering the Secret and Forgiven and Set Free. **

Healing comes through acknowledging one’s responsibility and confessing it to the Lord. For me, admitting that my abortion was my choice, not the result of others’ actions, was central to my repentance.

The same was true of King David in the Old Testament. After he committed adultery with Bathsheba and had her husband Uriah killed, he said:

When I kept silent about my sin, my body wasted away
Through my groaning all day long (Psalm 32:3).

Before I reconciled with God, I felt as David did:

My vitality was drained away as with the fever heat of summer (Psalm 32:4b).

But both King David and I found freedom through confession:

I acknowledged my sin to You,
And my iniquity I did not hide.
I said, “I will confess my transgressions to the Lord”;
And You forgave the guilt of my sin. (Psalm 32:5)

Hide your face from my sins
and blot out all my iniquity.
Create in me a pure heart, O God,
and renew a steadfast spirit within me. (Psalm 51:9-10)

I also found a great deal of freedom from forgiving.

For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins (Matthew 6:14-15).

Perhaps you are not living a life of freedom, even though you never had an abortion. Whether you’ve had an abortion or not, take some time today to ask God how you have sinned and whom you have not forgiven. Then confess your sin and your anger.

Lord, I confess that I ___________________ and I should not have. I am sorry. Please forgive me. For I know what I did was wrong, and it is always before me. Against you have I sinned and done what is evil in your sight. Cleanse me, and I will be clean. Wash me, and I will be whiter than snow. Let me hear joy and gladness!

Lord, I blame ___________________(person’s name) for ______________________. Please forgive me for harboring bitterness and anger toward him/her. Lord, I forgive ___________________. Bless __________________ with every spiritual blessing.

I pray that the freedom you feel is as amazing as mine.

Healed people get excited to tell everyone what Christ did. Imagine the powerful evangelical force of healed and restored Christians.

Imagine the powerful evangelical force of healed and restored post-abortive Christian women!

Speaking Boldly

One of the private messages that I received this week from a post-abortive woman was a cry over New York’s late-term abortion.

I am crying, too. Not only are more babies going to die, but now we’re going to have even more women who are spiritually dead, bitter, and defending the pro-choice movement. They are going to need healing, too.

Now, imagine hundreds of healed, outspoken, post-abortive women who explain how abortion hurt them psychologically and spiritually.

Imagine every pro-choice argument—intended to be pro-women arguments—refuted by women who have had abortions.

Now that’s a trumpet band I want to hear!

“Cry loudly, do not hold back;
Raise your voice like a trumpet,
And declare to My people their transgression
And to the house of Jacob their sins” (Isaiah 58:1).

In Christ,

Cheryl

** The links for Surrendering the Secret and Forgiven and Set Free are affiliate links. Any remuneration that I receive from affiliate links are used to pay for my three websites: CherylKrichbaum.blog, MybodyMyworship.org, and FacesofAbortion.com.

Talking to the Abortion-Minded

Being pro-life is being pro-woman. Today was the real women’s march.

Dear Christian Sisters,

One of my dear friends encouraged me to join a radio conversation in which the host asked callers how they talk to those who are pro-choice.

I realized that my response would make a good blog post, so here is what I said.

I respond to the pro-choice by talking only about the woman, not the killing of babies. I do not say “mother” but instead “woman,” and I do not call the baby a baby but instead “pre-born” because, so far, that term does not make them angry.

I used to be pro-choice, and I’ve had an abortion. I volunteered for the Planned Parenthood Action Fund and counter-protested Christians who were picketing an abortion clinic (in the early 1990s). I know how they think because I used to be one of them.

I tell the abortion-minded what abortion does to women. I tell them that I had an abortion. That usually stops all their arguments right there. But I continue to tell them statistics on depression and how even though I wasn’t clinically depressed, I had no joy, that my joy was sucked away with my baby. The word “sucked” emphasizes the horror of abortion.

I am on a quest to teach the pro-life to talk to the abortion-minded so that we can love them over the life line. I was loved over the life line.

I have begun writing the Faces of Abortion Series of books (1st one out soon), which will have many Christian post-abortive women’s stories so that the pro-life movement is equipped to talk to the pro-choice movement.

Being pro-life is being pro-woman. Today was the real women’s march.

In Christ,

Cheryl

Perspective (#BraveLikeMary Series)

Dear Christian Sisters,

The story of Jesus’ birth actually begins with the story of John the Baptist’s birth.

John’s mother, Elizabeth, was a relative of Mary’s, so John and Jesus were cousins—not first cousins because Elizabeth and Mary were not sisters, but cousins in their larger, extended family.

Elizabeth plays an important role in Mary’s life–she was Mary’s mentor.

But before we talk about Elizabeth mentoring Mary, let’s see the story from Elizabeth’s perspective.

Introducing Zacharias and Elizabeth

In the days of Herod, king of Judea, there was a priest named Zacharias, of the division of Abijah; and he had a wife from the daughters of Aaron, and her name was Elizabeth.
Luke 1:5

So what Luke is telling us is that both Zacharias and Elizabeth were of the tribe of Levi. The Levites served the Jews as priests.

Elizabeth is Both Righteous and Barren

They were both righteous in the sight of God, walking blamelessly in all the commandments and requirements of the Lord. But they had no child, because Elizabeth was barren, and they were both advanced in years.
Luke 1:6-7

So, Elizabeth’s clock had been ticking for some time. She wasn’t beyond childbearing years, that is, she had not yet entered menopause, but she was getting close.

Yet, she had no children.

In the Jewish culture of the time, big families were the norm. To not have children was rare. And as you may recall from my blog post titled, “Abortion & the Bible,” Old Testament Jews valued children.

It could have been that others shamed Elizabeth for not having children, yet she walked blamelessly.

God’s Perspective

We all have our stories, and we tell our stories from our own perspectives.

“We can’t have kids” is Zacharias and Elizabeth’s story.

“When I will receive greater glory, Zacharias and Elizabeth will have a child” is God’s story.

We can look at every story in the Bible from the perspective of those who were there and from the perspective of God.

Now, our insights won’t be perfect because the culture of the time isn’t like ours today (especially here in the United States) and because it’s challenging to imagine God’s thoughts since He is so much greater than we are; however, taking time to consider other perspectives will help us to understand God.

We can also look at our own stories from our own perspective, from the perspective of others, and from the perspective of God.

It’s a whole new twist on He said/she said.

He Said / She Said

Have you ever told a story from childhood only to hear your parents or your siblings tell the story in a completely different way?

To encourage my older boy to write, we teamed up to write some he said/she said stories. We took the same event and each told the story. It was a great way for him to learn perspective!

Our favorite he said/she said story was about a trip from Minneapolis to Atlanta through Detroit, where we had a 5-hour delay. He absolutely loved that trip because he got to watch videos, explore the airport, ride the tram and the moving sidewalk, and go on a big airplane (777).

He was seven at the time of this story. My other boy was a potty training toddler. The 7 pm flight ended up being a 12 midnight flight. Can you guess what the trip was like for me?

I carried my bag, my purse, a diaper bag, and a toddler.

I took all of us to the bathroom for every diaper change.

I walked boys on the moving sidewalk and took them on the tram over and over again.

When we finally got on the airplane, the boys wouldn’t go to sleep because they were so excited that they had their very own TV.

When we got to the Atlanta airport, the two-story escalator going down to the tram was out-of-order. Thankfully it was going down, not up, but it was 3 am, and I was carrying several bags and a toddler!

What my son thought was fun, I thought was exhausting!

My Abortion Story from My Perspective or God’s Perspective

When I think of my own abortion story, I can think about it from my perspective (read “Faces of Abortions” or wait for my book, ReTested, due out in January)
OR
from my boyfriend’s perspective
OR
from my parents’ perspective
OR
from God’s perspective.

How does the story change?

She Said

When I had the abortion, I was relieved because I thought the crisis was over.

How else did I feel? Good question. I think that mostly I was angry that I got pregnant. It didn’t seem fair to me that men could have sex without consequences, but women were shamed for being pregnant out of wedlock.

I’m not saying that I was right. Feelings are not right or wrong. They just are.

He Said

I’m sure God cried when I aborted my baby. I’m also sure that God welcomed my baby girl into heaven that day.

I am also convinced that God decided to use my story to stop future abortions, to stop other women from hurting themselves through abortion.

And here I am today, redeemed by His love (read “Forgiveness“), compelled by the Lord to write this blog, and speaking in Uganda and in the U.S.

I traded my story for His story.

The United States’ Abortion History from Women’s Rights Perspective or God’s Perspective

When I think of crisis pregnancies and abortion throughout the history of the United States and the world, I can look at it from from the perspectives of women who are worried about bringing a child into this world
OR
from a women’s rights perspective
OR
from God’s perspective.

How does the story change?

She Said

Women’s reasons for aborting are varied. Here are just a few: I can’t afford to raise a child. My parents will be so disappointed with me. The baby daddy will be so mad. Children put up for adoption feel abandoned and might be abused by their adoptive parents. I have the right to choose.

Again, I am not saying that these are right. They are feelings, mostly feelings of fear.

He Said

God cries for every woman who aborts. God welcomes every aborted baby into heaven. God wants those babies and their mothers reunited.

Also, I am convinced that God is saddened by women not feeling valued by men even though we are all one in Christ Jesus (Galatians 3:28).

As for our our country—as for all the countries that have legalized abortion—I’m sure God is angry. He founded the United States based on His commandments, yet as a country we have decided that murder is okay in some cases and not others.

How is this different than King Ahaz burning his sons in fire as sacrifices to a foreign god (2 Kings 16:3; 2 Chron 28:3, 2 Kings 16:2; 2 Chron 28:1)?

(For more on King Ahaz, read the “What God Said About the Jew Who Did Not Value Children” section of my blog post “Abortion & the Bible.”)

I look forward to reading more of Zacharias and Elizabeth’s story with you tomorrow.

In Christ,

Cheryl

The Scary Mask of Abortion

Dear Christian Sisters,

It’s Halloween, and I’m anticipating the usual crowd of masked children adorably asking for candy at my door. Every year, I offer full-size candy bars in exchange for Bible verses. Sadly, many don’t know what a Bible verse is.

And if they don’t even know what a Bible verse is, then they certainly don’t know that both abortion and extra-marital sex are against God’s commandments. Do our Christian children even know that?

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By about the age of 13, all Hebrew children at the time of Jesus knew not to have extra-marital sex and certainly not to kill their babies. So why don’t our children?

Tonight, I’ll see hundreds of children wearing masks because it’s fun to get dressed up. And I’ll wonder how many of them will grow up and later wear the mask of abortion.

Because that’s what abortion is–a mask for the sin of extra-marital sex (in about 85% of abortions*). When they choose abortion, they will become the walking dead like I was.

According to the Guttmacher Institute (Planned Parenthood’s statistical arm), 23.7% of women in the USA will have an abortion by age 45. That means we have:

  • 23.7% of women who are the walking dead
  • 23.7% of women telling other women that abortion is normal and no big deal
  • 23.7% of women advocating for abortion to remain legal

Now, that’s scary.

So, what are we going to do? My immediate response is to teach the children at my door John 14:6–Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.” Then to put a “Romans Road” track in their bag because the first step is to bring them into our family of Christ.

But beyond that, my job is to teach my children–and my children do know. Do yours?

What about their friends at church? According to a study by Care Net, about 30% of post-abortive women identify as Christians. That number should be zero.

We have sex education in the schools every year from about fourth grade through tenth grade. Do we have sex education in our churches every year? I applaud those who do.

As The Church, we need to make disciples so that our children know what the Bible is and then we need to teach them all that Jesus commanded so that they know not to abort and not to have extra-marital sex. This is the Great Commission in action.

“Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you. And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age.”
(Matthew 28:19-20)

In Christ,

cheryl-1

* The other approximately 15% of abortions are the result of medical differences of the baby and rape (which is only about 1%).