Do Not Give Up Speaking Truth

Dear Christian Sisters,

In the last two weeks of controversy over late-term abortions, I have received two kinds of private messages:

  1. Please help me with online conversations that I am having with pro-choice advocates. I don’t understand how they think, but you do.
  2. I had an abortion, too. I regret it, and I am heartbroken over all the news about legislation.

Today, I’ll respond to the first point. Next time, I’ll respond to the second.

Let me start by encouraging you to not grow weary.

Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we will reap if we do not grow weary (Galatians 6:9).

Responding to pro-choice comments is often exhausting and disturbing to our souls. I had one exchange in which the pro-choice advocate used the F-word and told me where to go in just about every one of her comments.

I responded with truth and kind words, and politely asked for a conversation rather than vulgarity. Eventually, she gave up and left the conversation. I was saddened by her inability to have a reasoned conversation.

However, I intentionally left seeds for her to remember my kindness and my points. I pray that the Lord will grow those seeds into love for Him and the life He creates.

Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good (Romans 12:21).

Another conversation I had ended with the pro-choice advocate saying, “It’s literally a parasite until it can live on its own.” I was so sad to read that.

Then I remembered that, like I said in yesterday’s post, hearts are being revealed. We must pray for our adversaries.

“But I say to you who hear, love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you” (Luke 6:27-28).

So stay in the conversation, and continue speaking the truth in love. Here are some truths to share:

Typical Comments Followed by Truthful Responses

First, I assume that the woman with whom I’m conversing has had an abortion. The more she defends abortion, the more likely she has had one, so I try to mention post-abortion healing classes often.

That used to be me. When I was pro-choice, I needed to justify what I had done.

These women are in pain. They are bitter. They are often bitter at Christians, some justifiably and some not.

Show them the love of Christ by sharing love for women. Keep the emphasis on women and the truth of the abortion industry. You are not going to convince them that the pre-born have rights, so instead focus on how harmful abortion is to women.

The pro-choice movement talks about women, so we should, too. Meet them where they are.

“My Body. My Choice” or “Not Your Body. Not Your Choice”

The pre-born are not your body but his or her own.

I avoid using the words “baby” and “mother” because those words trigger the pro-choice into defending themselves even more.

“Reproductive Rights”

It’s not a right or a choice. It’s a destructive decision for both the woman and the pre-born. No matter what happens to the pre-born, he or she will not be forgotten by the woman. There’s a reason post-abortion healing classes exist.

“Christians Should Be _______________ Instead of Taking Away Women’s Rights”

Christians are helping women in crisis and adopting, but that isn’t exciting news so no one hears about it. There’s no doubt that we can and should be doing more. But as a Christian, I will not lie to women by letting them think that abortion is no big deal. It is a big deal. There are emotional and spiritual consequences for abortion. Post-abortion healing classes exist for a reason.

We should be just as concerned about the women who abort because the psychological effects of abortion are significant, hidden, and rarely discussed. Freedom is not found in abortion. Post-abortion healing classes are available at most pregnancy centers and some churches.

BTW, as Christians, we should be supporting those who are doing the hard work of helping women in crisis. Donate to your local pregnancy center or to Care-Net, who supports pregnancy centers throughout the United States.

“When Making Decisions for Laws, Never Use Emotion”

Only those who choose death are emotionless. That’s what abortion does. Makes people emotionless.

I used to call myself the walking dead before there was a TV show by that name. I didn’t regret my abortion for 14 years. For 14 years, I said what those women said. It wasn’t until I was healed that I could see just how dead I had been.

“PP Provides Women’s Healthcare, Not Just Abortions”

True, but Leana Wen, President of Planned Parenthood, has outright said their business is abortion far more than other health services.

According to former PP employee Abby Johnson, 50% of PP’s income is abortion and 50% government funding. (See Steven Crowder’s interview with Abby.)

If you want to see how abortion clinics operate, watch “Unplanned,” due out March 29, 2019. Abortion workers who got an early viewing of the movie agree that it’s an accurate portrayal.

Also, see “Gosnell,” which is about a private abortion clinic, due out on DVD soon. All women should be horrified by the uncleanliness of that clinic and by the inaction by the government.

If you want to see how abortion clinics are doing on their health inspections, go to Check My Clinic. This should be of concern to EVERY woman, regardless of which side of the issue you are on.

In Christ,

Cheryl

Hearts are Being Revealed

Dear Christian Sisters,

It’s only been two weeks since the 46th Roe v Wade anniversary, the day that New York passed its late-term abortion legislation, cheered, and lit up New York City in Planned Parenthood’s pink (see note below).

The hearts of the NY legislators and governor were revealed that day.

Then we heard from Delegate Kathy Tran of Virginia introduce legislation that would make it easier to get a late-term abortion in Virginia, saying that abortion could happen all the way up to birth.

The Virginia Delegate’s heart was revealed that day.

After that, we heard Virginia Governor Ralph Northam on the Ask the Governor radio show explain “exactly what would happen” in a third trimester abortion, but what he described was infanticide.

The Virginia Governor’s heart was revealed that day.

Let us rejoice that the truth is coming out while simultaneously praying for God’s mercy. Please be in prayer for everyone you hear about in the news, that they would know the personal, loving God who changes hearts and loves life.

In Christ,

Cheryl

Note:

When we see pink, we think of breast cancer. I did a little searching and found that Susan G. Komen started using pink in 1991. Around the same time, I remember protesting with PP (see below), and everyone there had pink arm bands. I don’t know which organization started first, but I can say that PP has been using pink for a long time.

You may be shocked that I protested with PP, that I was on their side. Yes, I used to be pro-choice. Remember that I had an abortion when I was 17, and until I had a personal relationship with Christ, I defended my decision by supporting PP, even though I did not have an abortion at one of their clinics.

46th Anniversary of Roe v Wade: a Little History Lesson

Dear Christian Sisters,

Today marks the 46th year of mourning the Roe v Wade Supreme Court decision of January 22, 1973.

Consider this: Everyone in the USA age 64 and younger has lived in the wake of Roe v Wade their entire adult lives.roevwade

1969

The National Association of the Repeal of Abortion Laws (NARAL) began organizing in 1969 to legalize abortion. NARAL has been through several name changes but today is known as NARAL Pro-Choice America.

Two men were key in starting NARAL: Lawrence Lader, a Communist, and Dr. Bernard Nathanson, an OB/GYN who saw the results of many botched abortions.

Dr. Nathanson, dubbed “The Abortion King,” lent medical credibility to the legalization of abortion. He worked to improve the cleanliness and medical standards of illegal abortion clinics ahead of legalization.

Lader  put women at the front of their political work. He knew that in order to get people to listen, they needed to hear from women that abortion was perfectly okay for them.

1970

Did you know that abortion was legal in Hawaii and New York in 1970, before Roe v Wade? When abortion was legalized in New York, women traveled to the state for an abortion, which was good for the economy.

Margaret Sanger, the founder of Planned Parenthood, had died in 1966 and was not personally involved in abortion rights. A year earlier in 1965, PP warned women not to abort, saying that it kills the life of a baby and endangers the woman.

Planned Parenthood itself initially said “no” to Dr. Nathanson when he invited PP to join them in promoting legalized abortions. But after abortion was legalized in New York and they saw how much money was to be made, PP joined NARAL in their political efforts.

From Pro-Abortion to Anti-Abortion

Dr. Nathanson at the time was an atheistic Jew. A few years after Roe v Wade, he saw an abortion through an ultrasound. Seeing that the fetus was alive, he began to question his assumptions. He famously asked:

“What If We’ve Been Wrong?”

In 1984, Dr. Nathanson was the narrator of an anti-abortion film titled The Silent Scream.

After converting to the pro-life movement, Dr. Nathanson converted to Christianity. So, he was pro-life before he was Christian.

Fake News in the Late 1960s

Dr. Nathanson became a speaker for the pro-life movement and openly confessed how he deceived Americans by inflating numbers and using marketing strategies to vilify the pro-life Catholic Church.

For example, NARAL reported that there were one million criminal abortions annually. The real number was 10% of that—90% FEWER abortions than reported.

NARAL claimed that 5-10,000 women died each year from botched abortions when the real numbers were closer to 250—95% FEWER women died than reported.

In summary, the United States was duped by clever marketing strategies crafted by men.

To Learn More

I had heard most of the facts that I listed above from one of Dr. Nathanson’s recorded presentations. I later read those facts in the 2017 book What If We’ve Been Wrong? Keeping My Promise to America’s “Abortion King” by Terry Beatley. Dr. Nathanson wrote two of his own books (affiliate link—just trying to pay for my websites). You can read one of his articles for free at “Confessions of an Ex-Abortionist.”

In Christ,

Cheryl

 

MLK Jr Day & Mildred Fay Jefferson

Dear Christian Sisters,

On this Martin Luther King, Jr Day, let’s remember Dr. Mildred Fay Jefferson (1927-2010), a pro-life advocate.

Photo of Dr. Mildred Fay Jefferson speakingDr. Jefferson helped to found the National Right to Life Committee (NRLC) and served the Committee in several roles, including President from 1975 to 1978.

Dr. Jefferson was a well-known pro-life speaker in the 1970s. In 1972 through one of her appearances on TV, she convinced then California Governor Ronald Reagan to switch from pro-choice to pro-life.

In addition to her pro-life advocacy work, Dr. Jefferson was both the first black woman to graduate from Harvard Medical School and the first woman to graduate in surgery from the same school.

“I am at once a physician, a citizen, and a woman, and I am not willing to stand aside and allow the concept of expendable human lives to turn this great land of ours into just another exclusive reservation where only the perfect, the privileged, and the planned have the tight to live.”

Listen to her speak in this video tribute to her life by the NRLC.

In Christ,

Cheryl

MybodyMyworship on the Radio

Dear Christian Sisters,

A couple weeks ago, Katharine Wang of Master the Bible Ministries interviewed my friend Michele and me about our new ministry, MybodyMyworship.

You can listen to the recording below of the radio show or read the transcript.

MybodyMyworship battles abortion with worship, prayer, and teaching. Our mission is to inspire spiritual acts of worship (Romans 12:1) by teaching biblically sound science of sexual integrity and psychological effects of abortion (1 Corinthians 6:19).

We offer conferences full of worship, prayer, and teaching. Please contact us to bring MybodyMyworship to your church anywhere in the United States or around the world.

We also offer worship inspiration on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. Follow us on social media to fill your social media feed with God.

In Christ,

Cheryl

Reflections on the March for Life

Dear Christian Sisters,

Friday was the 45th March for Life, a political march that started on the first anniversary of Roe v Wade.

This was my first march. It was my Women’s March. I marched for women.

A sign at the rally that says,

I don’t like politics, so I resisted going. But as I was telling someone that I would miss the march because I had a commitment, I had a sinking feeling like I had to be there. So, I made arrangements to go.

Honestly, the intended audience for my sign was the other marchers. My message is for Christians.

I got a lot of looks, like I was making people think. Yay! That was exactly what I wanted.

My

One woman asked me if I bought my t-shirt at the march or had it made. I had it made! So I gave her my card, saying, “I’m trying to get people to understand that abortion is a Great Commission issue” (see my blog post “Abortion & the Great Commission”).

Attending the Evangelicals for Life Conference

On Thursday, I went to the Evangelicals for Life conference. That evening, I went to the March for Life worship event. On Friday, I went to the March for Life rally and then walked in the march.

My friend Jennifer and I. We marched together for women of all colors.
Jennifer and I “marched” for life in Uganda over New Year’s and then we Marched for Life of women of all colors in Washington, DC.

What I really wanted to do was to listen. I wanted to listen to the conversation. I wanted to hear what people were saying. I wanted to hear whether I agree with what was said or whether speakers were harping on the message that the pro-choice movement hears–it’s all about the baby.

I was encouraged! At the Evangelicals for Life conference, I was most encouraged by Russell Moore’s presentation, which opened the conference. I didn’t know Russell Moore before the conference.

Honestly, I stayed away from the abortion conversation on purpose until a year ago when the Holy Spirit convicted me to speak loudly and raise my voice like a trumpet (Isaiah 58:1).

Russell Moore is the President of the Ethics and Religious Liberty Commission. I loved his message. He gave me hope that more and more Christians would understand that the abortion issue is a Great Commission issue. We don’t want people to just stop aborting babies. We want them also to accept the love of Christ.

You should listen to Russell Moore’s message. It’s powerful.

Attending the Worship Night

During the day, I worshipped and heard from Evangelicals. That evening, worship was led by Pentecostals. I am not Pentecostal, but honestly I love how they pray! Their prayers are so much more bold than what I hear in my Evangelical church.

Abby Johnson and her friends, all former abortion workers. Praise God for their redemption in Christ!

Abby Johnson, a Baptist turned Catholic, spoke. She is a former Planned Parenthood clinic director. She started a ministry called And Then There Were None. Her mission is to speak truth about Planned Parenthood while simultaneously helping workers in the abortion industry get out and get into new jobs.

What a life-giving ministry!

You should follow Abby Johnson on all her social media outlets.

The March for Life, My Women’s March

On Friday, I had the privilege and God-arranged opportunity to ride into Washington, DC and march with employees and volunteers of Mosaic Virginia, a crisis pregnancy center.

Mosaic-Virginia.org

These women are so committed to saving other women from the heartbreak of abortion. Not only that, but Mosaic has purposely begun counseling men in the last few years.

It’s not just about the women. Men, the fathers of the babies, are the most influential person in the abortion decision, according to Cindy Hopkins of CareNet.

Mosaic-Virginia.org

These women of Mosaic are real. They are practical. They totally understand that abortion is as much about the women and men as it is about the baby.

God is grieved not just for the loss of babies, which are truly child sacrifices (), but for the women–and the men–who are lost for eternity until they seek the loving forgiveness of Christ. Healing is available to all who seek Him. This I know.

Caitlin was one of the women in the car. She is a singer who has a heart for the pro-life movement. What a lovely woman of God. Listen to her pro-life message given through music.

At the rally, I heard mostly messages that conveyed Christ’s love for women.

And, unfortunately, that message has not been conveyed in the news. The theme for the 2018 March for Life was #LoveSavesLives. Not just the love of babies, but the love of the women and men who created the babies.

Conceived through Rape

I saw people marching for children conceived through rape!

God doesn’t make mistakes. The last pain that I felt for my own abortion was all about God. I realized that I was mad at God for letting me get pregnant.

I mean really. We like to explain pregnancy through science. But as believers in Christ, we know that God is in control.

God decides which eggs get fertilized.

God decides which babies make it without miscarriage.

God decides which babies make it through physical and intellectual and developmental disabilities.

God decides.

I was mad at God.

No, I wasn’t raped. But I was still mad at God for letting me get pregnant. I had to confess that sin. And once I did, I was able to write again, to move forward, to continue in the task that God had given me to speak loudly and not hold back (Isaiah 58:1).

March for Life Rally

I liked most of the message at the March for Life Rally. It was clear to me which speakers “got it” that abortion is not just about babies but also about men and women.

But there were still some who were solely focused on the baby. That made me sad.

But it also confirmed the reason the Lord wants me to speak loudly and not hold back (Isaiah 58:1).

God is not just grieved over the babies–and He is grieved over lost babies!

But God is also grieved over the women who are spiritually lost.

God is also grieved by the men not standing up to be the men God has called them to be.

The March for Life

Marchers at the March for Life with the Washington Monument in the background

The March for Life was about showing our legislators that pro-life legislation is still important. We have not given up on reversing Roe v Wade. The numbers of people marching are what was important. And the weather was in our favor.

I was not able to find good estimates on the numbers other than “fewer than 500,000.” Take a look for yourself:

A video of the March for Life as we went up the hill to the Supreme Court.

In Christ,

Cheryl

Legalized Abortion & the Anniversary of Roe v Wade

Dear Christian Sisters,

Today, January 22nd, is the 45th anniversary of Roe v Wade.

Although I am heartbroken that our country has given in to satan’s* lies, let us not be deceived into thinking that reversing Roe v Wade will end abortion. It won’t.

Abortion is illegal in countries all over the world, yet the abortion rate is still high in those countries.

Uganda’s Abortion Rate

In Uganda, where abortion is illegal, the abortion rate is thought to be as high as 70%. What will change that?

Changing the abortion rate requires a societal change away from pre-marital sex, adultery, and tribal traditions of having multiple wives to following what the Bible says about sex—that is, only having sex with the one person whom you marry.

Cheryl preaching sexual integrity in Kigumba, Uganda
Crazy Hair Krichbaum, or as my mission-trip teammates called me, Chastity Krichbaum. Pic taken in Kigumba, Uganda January 3, 2018

The whole society has to change, and that change needs to begin within the church. For that very reason, I have been preaching sexual integrity in Uganda.

Now to do the same here in the United States. (New ministry beginning this year: MybodyMyworship, which you can find on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram.)

The Effects of Reversing Roe v Wade

More Needs in the United States

When (not if) we reverse Roe v Wade, the need to care for women will rise.

We will have more women in crisis pregnancy centers.

We will have more women in emergency rooms because women will go to unsafe doctors or take homemade concoctions that not only kill the babies but hurt themselves.

We will have more children in the foster care system.

We will also have more children born with disabilities.

Are you ready for that reality?

What are you doing through your church to get ready?

Further, you will have even more women angry at Christians because, from their perspective, we are putting them into bondage.

We need to stand firm. We need to convince them that we are protecting them from satan’s* bondage of lies and darkness.

Influencing the Abortion Rate Worldwide

Reversing Roe v Wade will also reduce the abortion rate worldwide.

Why? Because with legalized abortion, we are telling the rest of the world that abortion is okay. Despite their own laws, they are following our example.

Whether we like it or not, we are watched by the world. Whether we agree or not, we are perceived to be a Christian country.

Because we are perceived to be a Christian country, we are telling the rest of the world that Christ approves of abortion at any point in the pregnancy.

By restricting pro-abortion laws and eventually reversing Roe v Wade, we are telling the world that Christ is against abortion.

Simultaneously Pro-Active in Politics and Pro-Active in Our Communities

So let’s get ready. In politics:

Through your church:

The abortion rate is not going to change with us sitting here idly reading blog posts. Let’s get to work.

In Christ,

Cheryl

* I refuse to capitalize “satan.” He does not deserve the respect of a capitalized name.

Abortion: Changing the Conversation

Dear Christian Sisters,

I am Cheryl Krichbaum, a wife, a mom, a former web-based training project manager, a prayer warrior, and the founder of MyBodyMyWorship, which you can find on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram.

I am an outspoken Christian, just telling it like it is. And I have a mission.

Cheryl Krichbaum

My mission is to change the conversation about abortion. Perhaps as a result, Christians will think and talk differently about abortion and then accomplish the Great Commission one hurting woman—and man—at a time.

I firmly believe that the pro-life movement is a Great Commission opportunity:

Rather than just pro-life, let’s be pro-eternal-life.

Why CherylKrichbaum.com?

Naming my website with my name rather than a created name for my ministry provides me the opportunity to write about whatever the Lord places on my heart, even if that’s something other than abortion and purity. For the foreseeable future, though, my posts will address those issues.

Naming my website CherylKrichbaum.com may seem arrogant to you, but for me it’s recognition that “Cheryl Krichbaum” is my Christian name, a name taken in humbleness and gratitude to my Father above.

Cheryl Krichbaum is my married name, the name I took when I married Russ. Just five months before we got married, I chose to have a personal relationship with Christ. That is, I changed from being a Christian by birth to a Christian by choice. I changed from being a hearer of The Word to a doer of The Word. I changed from being a Christian by title to a disciple of Christ.

Russ is my second husband. When I was married the first time (before I became a Christian), I did not change my name. So, until I married Russ (after I became a Christian), I had always had my birth name.

When Russ and I got engaged, I did not want to change my name. I remember that we argued about it. Russ felt emasculated, but I was offended, too. For me, it wasn’t about Russ. It was about wanting to feel valued for me.

Somewhere in those four months that we were engaged, the Lord softened my heart and made me realize that Hewas giving me a new name. So Cheryl Krichbaum not only is my married name, not only the name that I chose, but the name that reflects both Russ’ love for me and God’s love for me.

My Story Exchanged for His Story

You can read my story in the following blog posts: Faces of Abortion and Forgiveness and Peace that Passes All Understanding or watch my testimony on Facebook.

Someday you’ll be able to read many more details in my memoir, which I am editing and preparing for publication right now.

I Believe

I believe that we need to change the focus from babies who have no voice to women who are in charge of their own bodies. The pro-choice movement is all about the women, so we need to address their issues head on (know thy audience!). That’s what a true Aristotelian rhetorician would do. That’s what the Apostle Paul, a classical rhetorician, would do. That’s what we need to do, too.

We need to:

  • focus on saving eternal lives, not just mortal lives.
  • talk about abortion and sexual integrity more in church than in politics. Why? Because abortion is illegal in most countries throughout the world, yet the abortion rate in those countries is still very high. Yes, we need to de-fund Planned Parenthood. Yes, we need to reverse Roe v Wade. But we also need to understand that the law won’t change hearts. Only Christ can do that.
  • teach men, women, and children to be obedient to God’s rules about sex. Just think about how many fewer abortions would be “needed” if there were fewer crisis pregnancies.
  • repent over our own sexual sins and our own silence about abortion and sexual immorality.
  • help men and women heal from abortion so that they do not abort again and heal from sexual immorality so that they have sex only within marriage.

In Christ,

Cheryl

Part 4: Abortion & Politics

Dear Christian Sisters,

I’m tired of politics.Republicans for Choice & Democrats for Life--Seriously? Abortion & Politics at CherylKrichbaum.com
I’m tired of politicians.
I’m tired of politicians talking about abortion.

If we were to follow news reports, we’d think that all Republicans are pro-life and all Democrats are pro-choice. But there are groups called Republicans for Choice and Democrats for Life.

We think that having a Republican President is a win for the pro-life movement, but consider this: The CDC’s statistics show that the USA had—

  • more abortions per year 2004-2008
    (avg of 715,000/year; Republican President)
    than 2009-2013
    (avg of 632,000/year; Democratic President), and
  • the abortion rate went up 2004-2008
    (from 714,000 to 718,000/year; Republican President)
    but consistently went down 2009-2013
    (686,000 to 570,000/year; Democratic President).

Let that sink in.

Many Christians want to reverse Roe v Wade, thinking that abortion would end.

It won’t.

In Uganda, for example, abortion is against the law yet women still have abortions, particularly poor women.

Perhaps our attention should not be on politics but on women who are in difficult situations.

Instead of focusing on politics, let’s turn our focus to “teaching them the way they should go” (Deut 6:7) and “teaching them all that I commanded you” (Matt 28:20).

Vote and then let’s go with our churches to volunteer among the poor in our cities and counties because those are the young women who are most likely to abort.

Instead of posting polarizing political articles on social media, let’s get involved in teen or young adult ministries at our churches—or at FCA (Fellowship of Christian Athletes).

Instead of getting upset at Planned parenthood, let’s volunteer at or donate to Christian pregnancy centers near us and encourage our churches to partner with them.

Instead of getting mad about women aborting 67% of Down Syndrome children (see CBS News report), let’s start special needs ministries at our own churches.

Instead of complaining about the pro-choice movement to our Christian friends, let’s start making our churches welcoming to hurting women, perhaps by starting chapters of A Mother’s Cry.

What other ideas do you have for making a difference in the abortion rate?

With the love of Christ,

Cheryl

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