Abortion Hurts Women Spiritually

Dear Christian Sisters and Brothers,

This headline makes me so angry! No wonder so many women in The Church abort—they are not hearing the truth!

36% of women who abort go to church at least once per month (Care-Net 2016).

Faith comes by hearing and hearing by the word of Christ. (Romans 10:17 NASB)

So Jesus said to the Jews who had believed him, “If you abide in my word, you are truly my disciples, and you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” (John 8:31-32 ESV)

As a post-abortive woman myself, let me explain what abortion does to women spiritually.

I have yet to hear the following message in any Sanctity of Life sermon, but every woman and man needs to hear it.

God is Holy, and He Hates Sin

God has set standards for how we are to live, not because He wants to control us or take away our fun but because He loves us as a perfect Father does.

Now, we do not have perfect fathers here on earth, and many of you have broken relationships with your imperfect fathers. I realize that our broken view of fatherhood makes it difficult to see God as a loving Father, but perhaps you can imagine with me.

Anyone remember the TV show Leave It to Beaver? Remember how the father worked hard, provided for his family, and loved his wife and his boys?

How about the father in the Brady Bunch?

My Three Sons?

How about Liam Neeson’s character in the “Taken” series of movies? Clearly he’s imperfect but fiercely protective of his virgin daughter.

God, as Our Father, Creates Standards for Us Because He Loves Us

God is love. (1 John 4:8)

From the Old Testament to the New, God removed the food standards (all the standards for eating kosher foods), but He did not remove the moral standards. We can read these moral standards in the 10 Commandments and other places.

Jesus reiterated the 10 Commandments by telling His Jewish audience to love God and love people.

When our parents create boundaries for us—or standards—we know that if we do not follow their rules, we will experience consequences, such as a time-out when we’re little or losing privileges when we’re teenagers.

God, our loving Father, taught parents to create standards because that’s what He does. We are to reflect His fatherhood. We are imperfect people and therefore imperfect parents (just ask my boys), so we do not reflect God perfectly, but we are called to try.

God’s standards include keeping sex within marriage and not murdering. (Before you get mad at me, remember that I have not kept either of these standards.)

If you need a reminder of the Bible verses that show these standards, see the links below to my other websites:

Best Pro-Life Bible Verses

Bible Verses on Sexual Immorality

So, what happens when we break God’s standards? I think the best example is to look at King David’s life.

David and Bathsheba

David’s whole story shows us a man of great faith (God calls Him a man after His own heart [Acts 13:22]) but also a man of a great imperfections.

Let’s look at what happens to David when he does not keep sex within marriage and then murders to cover his sin.

You are probably familiar with David and Bathsheba’s story, but let me give you a quick reminder. The short version is that David used his kingly power to have sex with another man’s wife and then killed the man to cover up his sin (see 2 Samuel 11).

Today in the United States, you might expect a rich man to offer his mistress money for an abortion or even pressure her into having an abortion. But that’s not what David does.

Why not? Because the Hebrews valued babies.

Until Nathan confronts David, the king thinks he has gotten away with his sin of extra-marital sex and of murder.

After Nathan explains things, David immediately takes responsibility and confesses his sin (see 2 Samuel 12).

The Spiritual Consequences of Murder and Adultery

David then goes into the Tent of Meeting and sings his confession, as recorded in Psalm 51. He also sings Psalm 32. From these two Psalms, we learn what happens when we murder and commit adultery:

  • When we keep silent about our sin, our bodies waste away. (Ps 32:3)
  • The Lord’s hand is heavy upon us. (Ps 32:4)
  • Our vitality is drained away. (Ps 32:4)
  • We yearn to hear joy and gladness again. (Ps 51:8)
  • We can’t wait for our broken bones to rejoice. (Ps 51:8)
  • We want to feel the Holy Spirit within us. (Ps 51:11)
  • We want to be renewed with a steadfast spirit. (Ps 51:10)
  • We want to be restored with the joy of salvation. (Ps 51:12)

Why do we desire the Holy Spirit? Because when we have more of the Holy Spirit, we have more fruit of the Spirit—love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Gal 5:22-23).

In my memoir, ReTested, I explain my 14 or so years between my abortion and my confession as walking through life dead inside. I called myself “the walking dead” before there was a TV show by that name!

Pastoral Leadership

So, Methodist, Baptist, Lutheran, Presbyterian, and United Church of Christ pastors in Tennessee, when you tell women that it’s okay to abort, you are telling them that it’s okay to live separated from God, that God doesn’t mind that they murdered, that it’s okay to walk around like zombies.

The truth is that Jesus came to set us free (Galatians 5:1) and so that we can have abundant life (John 10:10). Abortion does not result in abundant life. It results in drained vitality (Psalm 32:4; John 10:10).

Your letter to Tennessee Gov. Bill Lee is not the kind of leadership we women deserve. We deserve to be:

  • taught the truth (John 8:31-32; Acts 17:10-11).
  • gently rebuked like Nathan gently rebuked David (2 Samuel 12) and Jesus gently rebuked the woman at the well (John 4:4-42) and the woman caught in adultery (John 8:1-11).
  • taught the path to renewed vitality (Matthew 6:12-15) so that we can live abundantly (John 10:10).

Further, for those women who do not believe that Jesus is the Christ who died for our sins (Romans 5:8), was raised from the dead (Romans 10:9-10), and today sits at the right hand of God, you are telling them that it’s okay to be forever separated from their babies and spend eternity separated from God.

And just to appeal to the practical nature of running your local church, if you want women to serve in the church, get them freed from their sins.

Freedom Is Available, and It’s Awesome!

If you have been involved in an abortion—whether you had one yourself or “supported” a woman through one—you can have your vitality renewed, like I did.

The path to renewed vitality is confession (Matthew 6:12, 14-15) and returning to God (John 8:11).

We protestants do not spend enough time talking about the benefits of confession. Let me just tell you from my own experience that confession and forgiveness results in freedom and abundant life!

And freedom is awesome!

Post-Abortion Healing Is Available!

Post-abortion healing classes are offered through pregnancy centers and some churches using curricula like Surrendering the Secret and Forgiven and Set Free. The Catholic Church offers Project Rachel.

Men who have pressured a woman, drove her to the clinic, or paid for the abortion need healing, too. Some pregnancy centers offer classes for them as well. A common curriculum is Healing a Father’s Heart.

The links to books above are affiliate links. Any remuneration that I receive from affiliate links are used to pay for my three websites: CherylKrichbaum.blog, MybodyMyworship.org, and FacesofAbortion.com. Please contact me if you have any questions.

In Christ,

Cheryl

My Joy Was Sucked Out

Dear Christian Sisters and Brothers,

This is what abortion does to women. What’s worse is that we don’t even realize it until we’re healed and looking back at our lost years.

Thankfully, post-abortion healing is available. Spread the word!

Contact your local pregnancy center or Surrendering the Secret.

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I hope you’ll join me next Friday on Facebook Live or YouTube Live at 7 pm Eastern Time. Be sure to forward this email to your pro-life Christian friends.

Not only will the event help you with your abortion conversations, but the book will provide you with a good read for Holy Week.

You can pre-order ReTested: The Story of a Post-Abortive Woman Called to Change the Conversation on Amazon and Barnes & Noble in hard cover, soft cover, or ebook. (Audio will be released later.)

In Christ,

Cheryl

People, Not Politics: Introduction to ReTested Book

Dear Christian Sisters,

This morning I promised to send you the introduction to my first book, ReTested: The Story of a Post-Abortive Woman Called to Change the Conversation.ReTested book cover

The book is due out Friday, April 12th, so put that date on your calendar and RSVP for the online event.

When I sat down to write the Introduction, I actually wrote more than what I published. But God made it clear that the second half were my words rather than the words that He gave me. So, I ended the introduction before I got on my pedestal. Here it is:

Introduction to ReTested

It breaks my heart that my pro-life stance automatically associates me with the Republican party.

Simultaneously, it breaks my heart that politicians in the Democratic party vote pro-choice or get bullied out of their elected positions. Why should I contact my legislator if he or she has already decided to vote pro-choice no matter what his or her constituents say? Our political system is supposed to represent its people, not money-making companies like abortion clinics and pharmaceutical companies.

Ever since we’ve seen the pre-born on ultrasound machines in the 1970s, we have known scientifically that they are alive. Science shows that they are alive. Our laws acknowledge the value of pre-born eagles and pre-born sea turtles but not the value of pre-born humans. Our thinking is backwards. Our political system is broken.

But even when we overturn Roe v Wade and every other pro-choice law in each of the states, abortion will continue. It’ll go underground. We’ll have a new illegal drug trade. There are countries all over the world where abortion is illegal yet abortion continues. Don’t expect the United States to be any different.

If we want to end abortion, we must change hearts. This starts with The Church. We have a lot to repent for (2 Chronicles 7:14a). We have a lot of disciples to make (Matthew 28:19). We have a lot of teaching to do (Matthew 28:20). All three are necessary if we expect God to hear from heaven, forgive our sin, and heal our land (2 Chronicles 7:14b).

“and My people who are called by My name humble themselves and pray and seek My face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, will forgive their sin and will heal their land.” (2 Chronicles 7:14 NASB)

“Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you. And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age.” (Matthew 28:19-20 ESV)

In Christ,

Cheryl

Praying for Post-Abortive Women: Day 7 of 40 Days of Prayer

Dear Christian Sisters,

My friend Heidi is so gracious to pray for women who have had abortions.

I, too, pray that post-abortive women will receive God’s healing not just because it’s the right thing to do but because healing will help end abortion.

Forty-five percent of women aborting in 2014 reported having had at least one prior abortion, according to the Guttmacher Institute (funded by Planned Parenthood).

I contend that it’s easier to have a second abortion because we’re already dead inside from the first abortion. I would’ve had another abortion if Russ hadn’t introduced me to Christ.

If women receive healing sooner, they may not have another abortion. Think about the reduction in numbers of abortions if we got women healed early.

At the end of the prayer, I’ll provide resources so that you know where to guide women who tell you they’ve had an abortion.

Gracious Lord Jesus,

Today I pray for the mothers. Many differing reasons propel a woman through the clinic doors. Some are ill informed, some don’t care, some feel they have no other options, some feel pressured. Today I’m remembering the women who have made the choice and then come to deeply regret it.

Father, I can imagine that there is no other heartache that strikes more to the core, no grief more crushing, no sorrow that shrouds more deeply, and no pain that stings longer.

We lift them up to you, Father. Hold them and hear them, forgive them, whisper your grace and tender love into their waiting ears, refresh their souls. There is a river whose streams make glad the city of God. Wash them in it, Lord. Give them peace.

How beautiful on the mountains are the feet of those who bring good news, who proclaim peace and salvation, who bring good tidings. Thank you, Lord God, for post-abortion counseling, available at many pregnancy centers.

Lord, thank you for these women who are trained to help women deal with the overwhelming flood of emotion that follows their decision, even if it’s years and years later. Bless them as they go about your work of healing, redeeming, and binding up.

Heavenly Father, we beg you again. Please change the laws across our nation. Restore our dignity. Rescue the babies and Give mothers the courage and means to say yes to life. We long to magnify your glory and we long to see you end this horrifying era of abortion in the United States.

We ask it in the name of Jesus,
Amen.

Post-abortion healing classes are offered through pregnancy centers and some churches using curriculum like Surrendering the Secret and Forgiven and Set Free. The Catholic Church offers Project Rachel.

Men who have pressured a woman, drove her to the clinic, or paid for the abortion need healing, too. Some pregnancy centers offer classes for them as well. A common curriculum is Healing a Father’s Heart.

The links to books above are affiliate links. Any remuneration that I receive from affiliate links are used to pay for my three websites: CherylKrichbaum.blog, MybodyMyworship.org, and FacesofAbortion.com. Please contact me if you have any questions.

In Christ,

Cheryl

God Wants His Daughters Back

Dear Christian Sisters,

As I said in my last post titled “Do Not Give Up Speaking Truth,” women who have had abortions are contacting me privately.

In all the recent controversy over late-term abortions, I see God revealing hearts and calling His daughters back to him.

Please receive them in love.

Why Is Our Response Important?

Our response to post-abortive women is important because:

  • Speaking truth in love is what Jesus did—as did my husband.
  • Speaking in love results in repentance, which results in healing and a restored relationship with Christ.
  • Restored post-abortive women can speak boldly about abortion in a way that others cannot and will become a loud trumpet that cannot be ignored.

Speak the Truth in Love

Jesus spoke the truth in love both to the woman at the well, resulting in many Samaritans hearing the Gospel, and to the woman caught in adultery, resulting in her accusers walking away, saving her life.

My husband also spoke the truth in love, and as result I chose personal faith in Jesus as the Christ, reconciled with God, and was healed. You’ll read about my hero in my upcoming book ReTested.

People who prayed outside Abby Johnson‘s Planned Parenthood clinic (40 Days for Life) also spoke the truth in love, as did her husband, resulting in her famously leaving her position as clinic Director and now speaking boldly for the pro-life movement. You can watch her story in the upcoming movie “Unplanned.”

My point? Speaking the truth in love results in people choosing Christ and His path.

Healing & Restoration

Your kind words may lead a woman to a post-abortion healing class offered through pregnancy centers and some churches using curriculum like Surrendering the Secret and Forgiven and Set Free. **

Healing comes through acknowledging one’s responsibility and confessing it to the Lord. For me, admitting that my abortion was my choice, not the result of others’ actions, was central to my repentance.

The same was true of King David in the Old Testament. After he committed adultery with Bathsheba and had her husband Uriah killed, he said:

When I kept silent about my sin, my body wasted away
Through my groaning all day long (Psalm 32:3).

Before I reconciled with God, I felt as David did:

My vitality was drained away as with the fever heat of summer (Psalm 32:4b).

But both King David and I found freedom through confession:

I acknowledged my sin to You,
And my iniquity I did not hide.
I said, “I will confess my transgressions to the Lord”;
And You forgave the guilt of my sin. (Psalm 32:5)

Hide your face from my sins
and blot out all my iniquity.
Create in me a pure heart, O God,
and renew a steadfast spirit within me. (Psalm 51:9-10)

I also found a great deal of freedom from forgiving.

For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins (Matthew 6:14-15).

Perhaps you are not living a life of freedom, even though you never had an abortion. Whether you’ve had an abortion or not, take some time today to ask God how you have sinned and whom you have not forgiven. Then confess your sin and your anger.

Lord, I confess that I ___________________ and I should not have. I am sorry. Please forgive me. For I know what I did was wrong, and it is always before me. Against you have I sinned and done what is evil in your sight. Cleanse me, and I will be clean. Wash me, and I will be whiter than snow. Let me hear joy and gladness!

Lord, I blame ___________________(person’s name) for ______________________. Please forgive me for harboring bitterness and anger toward him/her. Lord, I forgive ___________________. Bless __________________ with every spiritual blessing.

I pray that the freedom you feel is as amazing as mine.

Healed people get excited to tell everyone what Christ did. Imagine the powerful evangelical force of healed and restored Christians.

Imagine the powerful evangelical force of healed and restored post-abortive Christian women!

Speaking Boldly

One of the private messages that I received this week from a post-abortive woman was a cry over New York’s late-term abortion.

I am crying, too. Not only are more babies going to die, but now we’re going to have even more women who are spiritually dead, bitter, and defending the pro-choice movement. They are going to need healing, too.

Now, imagine hundreds of healed, outspoken, post-abortive women who explain how abortion hurt them psychologically and spiritually.

Imagine every pro-choice argument—intended to be pro-women arguments—refuted by women who have had abortions.

Now that’s a trumpet band I want to hear!

“Cry loudly, do not hold back;
Raise your voice like a trumpet,
And declare to My people their transgression
And to the house of Jacob their sins” (Isaiah 58:1).

In Christ,

Cheryl

** The links for Surrendering the Secret and Forgiven and Set Free are affiliate links. Any remuneration that I receive from affiliate links are used to pay for my three websites: CherylKrichbaum.blog, MybodyMyworship.org, and FacesofAbortion.com.

Talking to the Abortion-Minded

Being pro-life is being pro-woman. Today was the real women’s march.

Dear Christian Sisters,

One of my dear friends encouraged me to join a radio conversation in which the host asked callers how they talk to those who are pro-choice.

I realized that my response would make a good blog post, so here is what I said.

I respond to the pro-choice by talking only about the woman, not the killing of babies. I do not say “mother” but instead “woman,” and I do not call the baby a baby but instead “pre-born” because, so far, that term does not make them angry.

I used to be pro-choice, and I’ve had an abortion. I volunteered for the Planned Parenthood Action Fund and counter-protested Christians who were picketing an abortion clinic (in the early 1990s). I know how they think because I used to be one of them.

I tell the abortion-minded what abortion does to women. I tell them that I had an abortion. That usually stops all their arguments right there. But I continue to tell them statistics on depression and how even though I wasn’t clinically depressed, I had no joy, that my joy was sucked away with my baby. The word “sucked” emphasizes the horror of abortion.

I am on a quest to teach the pro-life to talk to the abortion-minded so that we can love them over the life line. I was loved over the life line.

I have begun writing the Faces of Abortion Series of books (1st one out soon), which will have many Christian post-abortive women’s stories so that the pro-life movement is equipped to talk to the pro-choice movement.

Being pro-life is being pro-woman. Today was the real women’s march.

In Christ,

Cheryl