Yesterday, I posted about the psychological risks of abortion. Today, I’m starting a series on the spiritual consequences.
Why don’t we tell Christian women the risks to their souls before they choose life or abortion?
Of the women who are aborting, 36% go to church at least once per month. It doesn’t matter which denomination—from Catholic to Evangelical.
Abortions have been had by women in your church—some before she knew Christ and some afterward.
Before scheduling a meeting with your pastor or priest, read this blog series yourself. Because as a member of The Church, you are as much of the solution to our society’s ills as the leaders of your local church.
Finding Evidence in the Bible
After I was completely healed from my abortion, I asked God what happened to me spiritually. I knew there were no stories of abortion in the Bible, but I asked Him if there were a story that explained the spiritual consequences of my abortion. He led me to King David’s murder of Bathsheba’s husband Uriah.
David Had Bathsheba’s Husband Killed
You are probably familiar with David and Bathsheba’s story, but let me give you a quick summary. David stayed home when he should’ve been in battle (2 Samuel 11:1). He sent all his men to war, including Bathsheba’s husband, Uriah (2 Samuel 11:3, 23:39; 1 Chronicles 11:26, 41). While at home, David used his kingly power to have sex with Uriah’s wife (2 Samuel 11:2-5).
What we don’t know is whether David and Bathsheba “had eyes for each other” before the adultery or whether she had sex with him because he was the king and reasoned that she couldn’t say “no.” However, there are two indications that the latter is more likely true.
First, Bathsheba is referred to as “woman” and “Uriah’s wife” all through Second Samuel Chapter 11, which tells the story of infidelity and murder, leaving David as the focus of the story. We don’t learn her name until Chapter 12 verse 24 when David is consoling her after their baby dies.
Whichever the case, the king is responsible for following the law of the land (Deuteronomy 17:18-20).
David tries to cover up his adultery by tricking Uriah into having sex with his wife. But Uriah is a man of higher character than David and won’t sleep with his wife when he should be away at war (2 Samuel 11:6-13). So David had Uriah killed to cover up his sin (2 Samuel 11:14-17).
Abortion hurt me, and I didn’t even realize it. Thirteen years after my abortion, I chose to allow Christ to be close to me. Fourteen years after my abortion, Jesus quietly, gently, kindly spoke to me about my abortion.
Although I initially denied that the abortion was my fault, I did ultimately accept responsibility. It was then that I started to become alive. I realized that I had been walking through life dead—I looked alive. I acted alive. But I was dead inside, and I didn’t even realize it.
King David explains this “walking dead” experience well in Psalm 32:3-5, which he wrote after he had Bathsheba’s husband killed.
He described heaviness and how his vitality was drained away. Looking back, that describes my post-abortion experience well—but I didn’t even realize it until God began healing me.
Yet when I shared my story with other Christians, I felt like I got the Christian cold shoulder, so I stopped telling people.
With the exception of one testimony that I gave right before moving out-of-state, I was silent for a dozen years.
Then God called me to speak boldly (Isaiah 58:1), so I began speaking and writing, and the Lord healed me even more. It took me a total of 31 years after my abortion to be completely healed.
And today, I have my joy back!
Now I realize that Christians don’t know how to respond to my abortion—they didn’t when I first told my story, and they don’t today.
Perhaps that’s why you or your friend has not spoken up. Perhaps your friend doesn’t know how you’ll respond. Perhaps your friend is afraid of your judgment.
Give her a hug!
Tell him that there are healing classes available, even for men.
Remind her that God loves her deeply, and He just wants her back as His beloved daughter and made whole.
Compliment both women and men for being brave by telling you!