National Day of Mourning

Dear Christian Sisters,

Today is #nationaldayofmourning over NY and other legislation for late-term abortions over the last month.

Let us mourn for our inaction that we would allow murder to be legal for 46 years throughout the USA and 49 years in NY.

Let us mourn for not valuing the sanctity of sex, your beautiful design for sex in marriage between one man and one woman.

Let us mourn that we have allowed others to teach about sex and reproductive rights when we should be teaching in The Church and in our homes.

We allowed this! Lord, we repent!

In Christ,

Cheryl

Movie Rated R for Abortion Scenes

Dear Christian Sisters,

The movie “Unplanned” is rated R for scenes of abortion. How ironic is that?

While the filmmakers were certain they were making a PG-13 film, the MPAA has informed them that it will, in fact, be rated R unless all scenes of abortions are removed or altered.

Check out the story by The Hollywood Reporter.

My opinion? If your children are receiving sex education, then they should see “Unplanned.” I will be taking my pre-teen and teen boys.

Be sure to check out the movie trailer, and put March 29 on your calendar as movie night.

In Christ,

Cheryl

3 Things about Sex that Nobody Talks About

Dear Christian Sisters,

It’s Valentine’s Day, and here in the USA we not only commercialize everything but we also get our belief systems from TV, movies, and the media.

As a result, many of us have a concept of love that is not biblical. For example, we say “making love” when we mean “having sex.”

We know from 1 Corinthians 13 what love is and is not. Sex is not mentioned at all.

So, on this Valentine’s Day, I want to share with you a bible teaching on sex.

My friend Katharine Wang, Founder of Master the Bible Ministries, has a wonderful teaching on sex and graciously wrote a guest blog for all of you. I pray that Katharine’s teaching blesses your understanding of how God sees sex.

Lord, open our minds to understanding the scriptures (Luke 24:45)—in Jesus’ name, Amen!

3 Things about Sex that Nobody Talks About

by Katharine Wang, Founder of Master the Bible Ministries

Sex is everywhere you turn in our culture. There’s no easy way—well, really no way—to avoid sexual temptation. It’s calling to us on every corner.

So what do you do when you start getting pressure to have sex before marriage or to look at or listen to sexually explicit stuff?

Before doing something you can never take back, there are three things you should know about sex that nobody talks about.

But first, we need a little sex education from the One who designed sex.

Sex & Our Bodies, Souls, and Spirits

Sex impacts three parts of us—our bodies, our souls (our emotions and mind), and our spirits.

God designed sex to create a physical, emotional, and spiritual connection for us. Anytime we engage in sex—or even think about it or look at something that arouses those desires within us, those three areas are triggered.

When we engage in sex as God designed it—in marriage to one person of the other gender—it gives life to our bodies, souls, and spirits.

Marital Sex & Good Health

Sex in marriage actually makes us healthier. It decreases stress levels, which makes us less likely to get sick. It creates an emotional bond with our spouse.

But more than that, it actually expands the capacity we have within us to have deeper emotional connections with anyone.

And it gives us a spiritual connection—not just to our spouse but to God and to others, too. It deepens our capacity to relate to people spiritually.

Extra-Marital Sex & Sickness

But what happens when we engage in sex-related things not how God designed us to do it? Sex still impacts our bodies, souls, and spirits.

Instead of making us healthier, sex outside God’s design opens us up to illness. Any sin will open our bodies to getting sick.

Numerous medical studies have documented the connection between illness and things like stress, anger, and even unforgiveness.

When it comes to sexual sin, doctors have an entire category of illnesses caused by these temptations.

Maybe you had heard that one. But here are three more things about sex that nobody talks about.

1. When Sex Can Make You Stupid and Feel Alone

First, giving in to sexual temptation numbs our conscious faster and in a more deadly way than a lot of other things.

You’re no longer as sensitive as you were before to the difference between truth and error, good and bad. That causes you to make more blunders, bad choices, and poor judgments in life.

2. When Sex Can Make It Harder to Relate Normally

Second, certain sexual sins will block your ability to relate normally to people of the other gender. It becomes hard to see them as anything but an object of your pleasure. That robs you of deep relationships that God designed your soul to have.

It’s harder to make deep connections with people. You may feel empty, lonely, disconnected—almost like the walking dead.  Relationships can become more shallow and more focused on what people can do for you rather than being focused on deep and satisfying mutuality.

You may find yourself less and less fulfilled with your relationships because you’re losing the capacity for satisfaction through relationships.

3. When Sex Can Make It Harder to Form Spiritual Connections

Third, giving into sexual temptation shrinks your capacity for deep spiritual connection with others and with God. It becomes harder to perceive what God is communicating to you. You may feel disconnected to God or like he’s being silent or hard to find.

And you may find it harder to have deep, satisfying spiritual connections with other people.

God’s Purposeful Design

Sex was designed by God to expand and bring life to our bodies, souls, and spirits. When we engage in sex as intended, we see our health and capacity for deep connections grow in all those areas.

But when we give in to sexual temptation, we will be impacted in all three areas of our being.

Maybe you’re experiencing some of the negative things that can happen when we give into sexual temptation. God will completely heal, forgive, and restore when you reach out to him.

But why be the one that needs healing? Use sex to help you—in your marriage with your spouse—not to bring you down.

I pray that Katharine’s teaching helps you understand God’s design for sex. You can find more great biblical teachings by Katharine Wang at the Master the Bible Ministries website.

In Christ,

Cheryl

Let’s Get Serious, Church: A Reaction to John Piper’s Post

Dear Christian Sisters,

I applaud every pastor who speaks about abortion. I am pleased that John Piper wrote a blog post about abortion and that his Desiring God ministry shared it on Facebook once again earlier this week on the anniversary of Roe v Wade.One Sanctity of Life sermon per year is not enough

However, we—The Church—have so much more to do.

I am a member of a big church with a famous pastor who is willing to speak against abortion on Sanctity of Life Sunday. I so appreciate his willingness to do so because so many pastors don’t or won’t.

Yet at the same time, I know that one 40-minute sermon once per year is not enough. About 30% of abortions in the United States are by Christian women. That’s 30% too many.

We have so much more that we need to do.

Sanctity of Life

What Do We Teach?

When our churches have classes and small groups, do they teach why abortion is a sin? Do they provide the bible verses that show that God knows all of us when we were formed in the womb? Do they teach the spiritual consequences of abortion?

To Whom Do We Teach?

Do we teach not just to teenagers but to the young adults and to the adults? Remember, everyone 64 and younger has known Roe v Wade their whole adult lives—and four states legalized abortion before Roe v Wade (Hawaii, New York, Oregon, and Alaska).

My church does not teach these things.

Sanctity of Sex

Most abortions could be eliminated simply by people waiting until they are married to have sex. Do the classes at our churches teach the sanctity of sex?

Do we teach sex education in our teen programs? Or do we leave sex education to our public schools?

Do we teach in our young adult or adult programs? Because, once again, our adults don’t even know—and many don’t practice—the sanctity of sex.

So, let’s get started. Pray, asking the Lord to start providing Sanctity of Life and Sanctity of Sex classes in your church to everyone—not just teens. Talk to other like-minded members about getting something started. Talk to your church leadership.

Let’s make the biblical teaching of abortion and sex normal in our churches. We need to end abortion in The Church. It’s up to us to make that happen.

In Christ,

Cheryl

The Scary Mask of Abortion

Dear Christian Sisters,

It’s Halloween, and I’m anticipating the usual crowd of masked children adorably asking for candy at my door. Every year, I offer full-size candy bars in exchange for Bible verses. Sadly, many don’t know what a Bible verse is.

And if they don’t even know what a Bible verse is, then they certainly don’t know that both abortion and extra-marital sex are against God’s commandments. Do our Christian children even know that?

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By about the age of 13, all Hebrew children at the time of Jesus knew not to have extra-marital sex and certainly not to kill their babies. So why don’t our children?

Tonight, I’ll see hundreds of children wearing masks because it’s fun to get dressed up. And I’ll wonder how many of them will grow up and later wear the mask of abortion.

Because that’s what abortion is–a mask for the sin of extra-marital sex (in about 85% of abortions*). When they choose abortion, they will become the walking dead like I was.

According to the Guttmacher Institute (Planned Parenthood’s statistical arm), 23.7% of women in the USA will have an abortion by age 45. That means we have:

  • 23.7% of women who are the walking dead
  • 23.7% of women telling other women that abortion is normal and no big deal
  • 23.7% of women advocating for abortion to remain legal

Now, that’s scary.

So, what are we going to do? My immediate response is to teach the children at my door John 14:6–Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.” Then to put a “Romans Road” track in their bag because the first step is to bring them into our family of Christ.

But beyond that, my job is to teach my children–and my children do know. Do yours?

What about their friends at church? According to a study by Care Net, about 30% of post-abortive women identify as Christians. That number should be zero.

We have sex education in the schools every year from about fourth grade through tenth grade. Do we have sex education in our churches every year? I applaud those who do.

As The Church, we need to make disciples so that our children know what the Bible is and then we need to teach them all that Jesus commanded so that they know not to abort and not to have extra-marital sex. This is the Great Commission in action.

“Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you. And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age.”
(Matthew 28:19-20)

In Christ,

cheryl-1

* The other approximately 15% of abortions are the result of medical differences of the baby and rape (which is only about 1%).